Where are you on surrogacy?
I know of a fellow blogger whose story I have been following for a few years now who is a wonderful mother. Only she doesn’t have a baby to hold in her arms yet. She longs to. She and her husband have spent thousands of dollars in treatments including IVF and undergone painful and invasive procedures in order to become parents.
So I watched with interest when people were so critical of Nicole Kidman and Keith Urban’s announcement about their new baby who was born by a gestational carrier. The thing is, we don’t know their story. It isn’t really any of our business in many ways. But I’d place good money on the odds that they underwent a similar journey to my friend Bec, and that Nicole’s age probably didn’t help her in this case.
I must admit I did wonder at what the difference between a gestational carrier and a surrogate was. According to trusty experts123:” A gestational carrier is not genetically related to the baby. The carrier has embryos transferred to her consisting of eggs and sperm from either the prospective parents or donors. The baby may be genetically related to both prospective parents, to one prospective parent or to neither of them. A traditional surrogate is artificially inseminated with sperm from the prospective father and is genetically related to the baby."Essentially the term Surrogacy” means, “help”. In my mind I think surrogates are extraordinary people. Really I do. It is such an incredible thing to do and involves so many complex factors.
The laws concerning surrogacy are complicated and differ from state to state. Commercial surrogacy where a surrogate is paid to carry a couple’s child is banned across almost all states in Australia except in the Northern Territory. The NT has no restrictions. In contrast, all forms of surrogacy are illegal in Tasmania. As long as the surrogate doesn’t make a profit, surrogacy is allowed across the rest of Australia. In March however, in NSW the laws will change and commercial agreements for surrogacy and overseas travel for surrogacy will be banned. The government argues it will prevent the exploitation of overseas women.
I don’t know what the future holds for my friend Bec. I hope her dream of motherhood is fulfilled. This probably won’t be a path they go down. But wouldn’t it be great if the laws surrounding alternatives like surrogacy were just a tad less complicated?