My daughter Jessica was born on the 10th sept 04.
I also have 2 boys 5 and 2 1/2 yrs and they are brilliant with Jessica..
Even though the boys are older to keep them occupied i try to involve them in all activities associated with Jessica ( nappy changes, baths, bottles etc ) and when Jessica goes down for a nap in the day i make that time for the boys to play with them and help with what ever activity they want to do.
As for the house work well that gets done when ever i can, usually at night when all kids are in bed..
You dont have a huge age difference between your 2 babes but this is how i keep my 2 boys occupied..
My 2 1/2 yr old was shocking when Jessica was born, he would try and push her off my lap, try to smack her as he had been the baby for the last 2 yrs then all of a sudden Jessica arrived.
To resolve this problem i just involved him as much as possible, when he wanted a hold i would give him one and let him help me whenever he could.
He soon got over the jealousy thing and now he adores her and is fantastic..
Hope you find a solution to keeping your toddler occupied..
SA mum of Aaron, William, Jessica and Jack....