Hi ladies, just after some advice or just know I'm not the only one.

My DS is 5 months and is a pretty good sleeper but over the last week or so he's starting waking a couple of times a night. I think it's due to the cooler weather as he loves kicking off all the covers so its easy to resettle him but I'm frustrated that my husband never hears him and I'm the one who has to keep getting up.

I've tried moving the baby monitor to his side of the bed but he still doesn't hear him. I've also tried waking him myself when I hear DS but it takes so long to wake him and explain that DS is awake it doesn't seem worth it.

I know as the mum I'm programmed to wake up when he cries but I'm feeling exhausted and would love a night off.

Any suggestions would be appreciated!

Not sure in your hubbies case, but in my hubbies case it's selected hearing lol

Welcome to Motherhood. There are some wonderful men out there who do get up but mine is not one of them. He actually used to sleep with earplugs in so he didn't get woken. Of course he does work 12 hrs a day but the occassional night off would have been great. Sorry don't have any advice because even after 2 kids it is still me getting up if either kid has an off night. Just know that it will get better and you are definitely not alone.

Same thing is this household. I gave up the expectation of dh getting up for nights a long time ago. Even if he did hear the kids he just isn't a night person, completely useless, total zombie so really, unless its one of those rare occasions where all the kids are sick or something, it's better if I do the nights, I'm a night-owl anyway. When it comes to mornings, I'm the zombie and he's great at early starts so weekends he'll get up early while I sleep in. Just find a balance that works for you both smile

I have the most supportive hands on hubby you can imagine. When home he does 100% of the care for our DS because he wants to and misses him when at work. Come night time, he will sleep through everything so I dont think you are alone. lol... MEN....

Your not alone its a genetic defect in men lol
My husband rarely heard DD when she was little - he still doesn't hear her on the off chance she wakes up!

I found the only way to get DH to get up to her was to poke or nudge him - its nice to have a night off once in a while

my DH will wake for our older kids but not the baby. and he never woke for either of the other two when they were babies. i asked him once why? and he said that he does 'sort of' hear them but he knows that bub wants boob so theres really no point in getting up (even tho half the time they dont want boob they just need resettling like in your case)

but he DID say that if i gave him prior warning hed get up..so i tell him..'my love tonight i need a sleep so if bub wakes up anytime other then 3ish (feed time) can you please get up for him' then he hears bub because hes expecting it.

have you tried this ^^^

as ruby gloom said find a balance, althought DH doeant get up hes up early with the older two every morning so it works out ok

In my opinion, as a pp mentioned, this is called selective hearing.

My DH shoots out of bed as soon as he hears DS now but when he was a newborn didn't even have a chance to wake for him as I was straight up and to DS before he got to the crying stage.

My DH sleeps through most of the time too and often has no idea if I have been up through the night or not.

If it is bothering you, perhaps look into getting a grobag or a fleecy jumpsuit for your bub so he stays warm all night. It might help him sleep longer smile

Thanks ladies. I have tried asking him the night before and he says he will but still doesn't hear him and in the morning he apologises.
I think it could just be that subconsciously he thinks DS wants a breastfeed so there's nothing he can do anyway.

Unfortunately he's not really a morning person either and DS and I are up at 6 while he doesn't get up til 8. I think I might try asking him to watch him for an hour or so when he gets home from work and I'll try napping then. Hoping this will work in the short term until DS goes back to only waking the once.

Failing this I will make sure DS knows when he's older that I was the one to get up in the middle of the night to guilt him into extra mothers day presents! tongue

My DH sleeps through most of the time too and often has no idea if I have been up through the night or not.

If it is bothering you, perhaps look into getting a grobag or a fleecy jumpsuit for your bub so he stays warm all night. It might help him sleep longer smile

have you tried this ^^^

haha are those your elbows???

haha are those your elbows???

hahaha why would i put elbows? but then yeah i guess i have elbowed, kneed or donkey kicked DH to wake him up lol

no ^^^ was arrows to my above suggestion in the post haha

ermmmm i think i'm gunna be the strange on here butttttt. My hubby always gets up to the kids because he is a much lighter sleeper then me so while i only hear them when they are positively roaring he hears as soon as they start to whimper.

When they were newborn he would just nudge me to get up and feed them and stay in bed but now DD2 just wants a dummy so he gets up and i usually don't know about it unless he wakes me coming back to bed

But when I have the kids on my own without him i wake the minute i hear them start to stir so i think somehow because i know he's with me my body just doesn't wake up when i hear them.

So maybe ur hubbies aren't being horrible lol

I'm glad I'm not the only one with a partner with selective hearing!!!
Dd2 is being a right real lil pain lately constantly waking multiple times a night I'm soo over it sad
Some nights Dp will get up to her but I'd say 85% of it is me angry
I know he would hear them as he always complains of having had bad nights sleep where he couldn't get to sleep!! Well Dp you could of got off ya butt and went to her!!!
But at least he puts ds to sleep every night for me.
I'll admit I'll stomp down the hall or close the door just a lil hard if im up all night he can have his sleep disturbed too laugh