I just had to vent a bit... Just got letter in the mail today, Apparently my "Mother" is taking me to court for visitation with my 5 1/2mth old DD1!!! Its a nightmare... I did not speak to her for years because she has major issues but was guilted into telling her I was pregnant by another family member... I didnt want to but was promised she had changed so I gave it a go... Well she didnt change & after several weeks of her drama, including vicious phonecalls & other harrassment we cut all ties with her, We offered this woman visits with bub once a month from 1pm until she wanted to leave in the afternoon but she refused- Stating she was too busy with her uni studies & would have to "think it over", A few weeks later she emailed via FB stating she only wanted FB contact as it was all SHE was comfortable with! Then more phonecalls started & it got so bad I would have to leave my house to get away from it, We considered an AVO but because she is my mum I really didnt want to go down that road... So now I just dont know what to do, My DD1 has no idea who this woman is (she hasnt seen her since she was 8 weeks old) & after this I never want to see her again!! So how can I just hand my DD over to a Woman who is a recovering alcoholic with serious mental health issues??? I cant even leave bub alone to go to the loo without her crying let alone give her to a woman she doesnt know... Sorry its such a novel but I just had to get it off my chest... I am so angry & hurt & I honestly wish I had never spoken to her again!! I just dont know what to do now!!

You tell the courts exactly what you have written here. Just the plain out truth. You pull up any medical records and every indiscretion that will work in your favour. Not to be a bitch but because you genuinely believe she is better off not in your childs life. Do you have records of her FB message kept?

Good luck, what trippers people can be x

Yup we have every voicemail, text & fb msg she ever sent... Its just a heartbreaking position to be in... The last time I spoke to her she was telling me she was upset with my sister so she was teaching my sisters daughter to say "Mummys a f!@#ing S!@t" I just dont want my bub to be around this woman... Its more upsetting that we spent our lives in & out of foster care & were constantly told she didnt want us and that we ruined her life and now she plays the poor hard done by Grandmother to all who listen!!! She had every chance to be part of our Daughters life but she didnt want it!!

How awful!

I am sure that with your story and the fact that you have kept all of her contact that you will not have to worry about anything. From what I hear there is no way the courts would let her win.

Good luck and keep us posted smile

Hi there,

I looked in to the legal side of this before as my MIL threatened to take us to court... I was told by a family lawyer that grandparents don't have a leg to stand on... The only time they will consider giving visitation is if one of the parents has passed away and the surviving one has stopped all contact with the deceased parent parents if that makes sense.... They told me if my IL's did try it would go to mediation.... But the fact remains SHE is your daughter you choose who is in her life nobody can force themselves it in and as you don't have contact with ur mum your daughter doesn't have to just because she is her grandmother!

I hope this helps stay strong!! Remember that lil girl loves you more then anything and know you do what is best for her smile

Just spoke to a solicitor... Hopefully she wont have a leg to stand on, She has to prove that she is a beneficial influence in DDs life and that she has an established relationship with DD that is suffering.. Considering the fact that DD is 5 1/2 mths old & only saw her grandmother maybe 5 or 6 times as a newborn that is going to be almost impossible to prove!! Unfortunately though it will have to go through the whole legal process to be resovled... Im just so tired of her drama & mind games.. If its not this its something else sad Didnt sleep last night for worrying about it all!