The criticism from other women was very hard to take but financially we couldn't afford for me to take a year off. I love my job as well and think of all the things my child has due to me returning to work. Another mother in a similar situation said to me that it's about quality hours with your child, not quantity. I ensure that every second I'm not at work is spent with my child and cherish every moment.
Second time around (if I'm lucky enough) I will be taking more than 3 months off.
I am having twelve months off and struggle at the thought of putting him into care at this time. I have the option of two years off and my position will still be held. In saying that, finances will likely warrant my return after twelve months. I would love to find a suitable way to remain at home...so far the lottery isn't working out for me and inspiration for a viable home based business - well none to date. It's not 'PC'to say it - but I envy the 1950's stay at home mum.
Totally agree about the 50's stay at home mum!
Finances are up in the air, & will dictate me going back as am the main breadwinner....
Its even harder now as have been offered my DREAM job, one which I have waited years for....& I feel very torn on what I should do.
I justify it to myself as a small sacrifice to pay when the time comes, as it is working towards a better and more secure childhood for my little one.
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I totally agree. Not to sound backwards, and I love the fact that women are more present in the workforce these days, but things were so much more clear cut when the men went out to work and the women stayed home with the kids. These days women are expected to be the primary caregiver and breadwinners and cook and clean..... It seems to be creating a generation of women who feel inadequate no matter what they do! If they stay at home and look after the kids, they arent contributing to society, if they go back to work they are bad parents. If they try to do everything they run themselves into the looney bin.
Not sure what the solution is, besides winning the lotto or discovering that a long lost uncle in Belgium has died and left you his millions.