So my little angel is 4 months, he's wonderful he sleeps pretty well and is generally a very well behaved easy baby to look after smile
My issue lately has been about myself, I feel like such a different person nowadays, and I really don't like the person I have turned into. I find myself stressing and nagging about things I would never have cared about before. Of course we now have more to worry about with money and our furture with little man but I used to be able to put stress aside and just be calm and chill out but lately my brain runs a million miles an hour 24/7!!
I know things change with a new baby and I can't expect everything to go back to normal so soon! But what do you do when you like the person you used to be more than the person you are now :/

Hi,
I totally understand where you are coming from. My DD is also 4 months and all seems to be going ok too although I am forever worrying if I'm doing the right things by her! It sounds crazy but there is so much information about babies sleeping, eating, growth and development I find it hard just to relax and enjoy her!

I too have seen myself change into someone different...yes, more nagging, more uptight, less relaxed when I used to be pretty chilled out! I remember thinking when I was pregnant, that I am going to be the crusiest Mum, just let things happen how they should, not worry about little things, not change too much about my life but having a baby is a life changing thing and until you have one, you can never really know what it means.

What has helped me is to put it all in perspective. I leave myself little notes on paper stuck around the house, that remind me what an important job I have now because being a mum is a job and when you think about it, when you take on a new job in the workforce, it takes a long time to learn all the ins and outs and get used to your role.
I tell myself to stay calm and relaxed, that I'm still the same person but now I have another important responsibilty and I'm no longer the most important person in the world, my daughter is. I love her to absolute bits.

I try not to miss my previous life but think of the wonderful things that I can look forward to as my DD grows. Some days it's very hard!

Everyone always says "They grow up so fast" which is so true. I make myself remember that everything else will fall into place in time but my baby will soon grow up and I don't want to look back and realise I wasted time worrying.


Sorry for the long reply...I'm sort of relieved there are others who feel the same!

So my little angel is 4 months, he's wonderful he sleeps pretty well and is generally a very well behaved easy baby to look after smile
My issue lately has been about myself, I feel like such a different person nowadays, and I really don't like the person I have turned into. I find myself stressing and nagging about things I would never have cared about before. Of course we now have more to worry about with money and our furture with little man but I used to be able to put stress aside and just be calm and chill out but lately my brain runs a million miles an hour 24/7!!
I know things change with a new baby and I can't expect everything to go back to normal so soon! But what do you do when you like the person you used to be more than the person you are now :/

Sorry to hear ur feeling down.... I have been this pregnancy from 25weeks and it is horrible I have bad anxiety and finding it hard time to time but I always just hope for a brighter day tomorrow and for it to continue that way .....even if it doesnt happen. sorry no real advice tho ....I dont want to take anything either, but something that helped me slightly has been fish oil tablets .... i just had to make sure they have no mercury in them.

Congratulations on the arrival of your bub! Feeling down anytime after having a bub is normal for all women -it is a tough gig being a mum and all mums should be commended for the fantastic job they do. If the feeling of "down" is persisting and nagging though it is best to make sure it is nothing more serious. Baby blues, post natal depression and hormonal changes can all manifest as feeling down. A chat to your GP or maternal health nurse can help a lot. It can reassure you that what you are feeling is normal or it may identify a problem that can be managed quickly, usually through support and occasionally with medication. Remember the most important person in your baby's life is you and you need to make sure you are okay. I hope the feeling "down" passes soon. smile

hi there,
i think kinda get you, i have had three kids in three years, we have moved four or five times, including two countries, and each time to a new town. I honestly think aventually you kinda just forget who you were if that make sense?? I cant rememeber how or when i changed but somewhere amoungst the breastpads, nappies, tripping over toys and racing a toddler to the toliet a million times a day i realised that although im stressed the hell out and i seem to be on edge the entire time i am just going through the motions of having young kids, i was a real cruisy person nothing got me down and now i get angry about the littlest thing, havent worked out if its lack of sleep, the fact my life is now revolved around other people and not me me me, or if its just a combination of having no iidea of what im doing and stumbling through it all... im not sure if this even makes sense, we all have good and bad times, happy and sad, but all i can say is that things change so quickly with kiddies, that before you know it youll have a school aged child and maybe some more time to be you and do you things (from before baby)smile