I think I'm losing it!! I don't know what to do :(

I don't know what is wrong with me lately. I feel like I am going to lose it! I feel so out of control with EVERYTHING!

I have a 6 month old daughter that currently has a cold. I have a very structured routine with her feed times & nap times and whenever something happens to deviate from that I kind of panic. I mean, my heart starts to race a bit and I just feel like crying! Am I going insane?? Stupidly, while she has a cold, I took my husbands advice and thought that we would try dropping one of her bottles from 5 to 4. Not only has she been really cranky and not wanting to sleep when she usually does but she is also not drinking her bottles. She is only having like 60ml!
Usually we would get her up again at 10pm for another bottle but we were wanting to drop that feed and now I don't know if we should try?? I mean, she has only had 60ml about 20 minutes ago. How will she get through the night on that?? She usually sleeps through the night but now I am afraid that she will be up at some ungodly hour demanding a feed and we will have undone all the good work we did.
I have no idea what to do!
I think I am also tired and that is not helping the situation. She took 90 minutes to get to sleep last night and then grizzled on & off again most of the night.
I am sick as well with this bloody cold and oh, did I mention that I also have a 3 year old that is sick too?? Oh, and I am a full time SAHM so I am just feeling like there is no escape from anything and I am going insane!

Sorry about all this but at least I have stopped crying long enough to write this post. That has to be a plus! lol

Can someone please tell me what I should do with my 6 month old? Give her another bottle or just put her down for the night and hope for the best?? HELP ME!!!

I know this probably seems like a silly reason for getting so worked up but I am huge on routine (it worked for my son and has worked for my daughter so far) and this is my worst nightmare at the moment.

Someone please give me some advice ASAP! Thank you.

I can't let this post go by without a reply.

I am sorry you are finding it so tough at the moment. Colds are horrible. They make bub so uncomfortable. It seems like it will never end doesn't it! My bub (just a bit older than 6 months) has one too and his sleep has gone crazy too. I think you need to just wing it until the cold passes. Then get back to your usual routine. If your bub is like mine it probably won't matter if you feed him now or not, he will wake up through the night anyway - mine is snotty and coughs himself awake sad But, I know it will pass, then will work on the sleeping again! Good luck!

hello , sorry to hear things not going well... sounds like your a little anxious and bubs is prob picking up on this , I get like this sometimes...like my heart races! so when bubs is crying and I am trying really hard to put her to bed I just keep telling myself you can cry for as long as you need I am here for you...I say this over and over in my head...seems to help , I think its like almost impossible to have a routine with some babies! everyday is still different and my bubs is 8 months! I wouldnt be waking bubs for a feed,,,, I still see this like what if Someone woke me and told me to drink....if she is sick she will prob just sleep alot....and if she does wake its not a bad thing I guess you keep telling your self how lucky are you to be looking after her and she loves you for it! I wouldnt be dropping anybottles if she is hungry feed her...I wouldnt be making any changes while she is sick poor little buba lucky she has you I can tell your amazing mum wanting to do everything right for her , your going to get through this , is stressfull but your a strong person and congratulations for asking for help good on you...
be stong muma , this cold will pass and everyone will be happy again.
try a vicks steamer in room great to help bubs breath...and you can get saline water to squirt up nose from chemist ...hope I have helped

Hello,
Just a reply to your question, I am also trying to drop my 6 mnth olds 5th feed and i am dropping the mid arvo feed not the last one. So that would be the 4 th feed of the day... another way you could help it work is stretch out all the feeds to 4 hours and that seems to have worked. So 7 am, 11am, 3pm, 7 pm, Bed. And solids at 12 and 6 pm.
I hope your kids gets better soon, smile

Oh darling, you are a mother of two working full-time and lacking a lot of sleep, it's not easy and you are probably putting a lot of pressure on yourself. Has the change in routine occured bc bub is sick or it's changed for a while? To be honest, routines are great but they don't always work and by 6 mths, they are more than likely to change. I think you are doing a great job and the 10 pm feed probably is the best one for you to drop.

My tip is go with the flow until bub recovers from the cold then change routine, ensure bub has a big dinner, even dessert and a bottle on the couch an hr later. Don't be too concerned about how much they drink, bub is probably eating more.

Hang in there and take care.

Thanks for all those that have replied to my post smile

We did end up dropping her last bottle last night and while she grizzled for about 90 minutes on & off, she slept reasonably well through the night. I got her up at 7.30am for a bottle this morning and have just put her down for a nap. Is it normal for most bubs this age to be up for 2 hours and then down for 2 hours, roughly??

I only started her on solids at the beginning of the week and she has not been interested whatsoever. As soon as it looks like she might swallow the food, she gags and spits it out. All she will do is lick it and spit it out and that's about it! I didn't try giving her any solids yesterday because I thought that it might be a bit much trying to introduce food to her while she sick. Is that wrong?? Should I persist anyway?

up for 2 hours and down for 2 hours is what my boys were like, so quite 'normal' ( but who says my kids are"normal") smile.Hope your bub is 100% better very soon.Also,it might be best to wait until she is all better before you try the solids again

My little one is 6 months old as well and has been having solids for about 2 weeks but she is sick at the moment and not interested in food at all, she hasn't eaten anything in 4 days, she only has small breastfeeds, her sleep is all over the place as well. I would definitely wait until she is well before giving solids. And I don't want to seem rude but you can't expect a little one who is sick to stick to her sleeping and eating routines. As long as they have enough fluids to not get dehydrated. When she is completely well again you could go back to your usual routine.

I understand that her routine will vary but I still think it is important to try and stick to it wherever possible.

At 6 mths you should not be withholding or dropping milk feeds. If she's refusing solids then just stop and try again in a week or three. Milk should still be her main source of nutrition for some time yet.
The best thing to do when they're sick is just do what you need to help them through. If she's grizzling then she's probably not feeling great and might benefit from some extra cuddles. She mightnalso sleep better with her mattress elevated a little or sleeping slightly inclined on your chest. Best of luck, hope she's feeling better soon.

Off course you can try, I'm just saying when they are sick we need to be a bit more flexible, they might just not want to feed and sleep at their usual times.. I just know how you feel though because my 2 girls and me only just recovered from a cold few weeks ago, only to get sick again, first my toddler with croup then an ear and throat infection, and now my little one with croup and I have a cold as well, its horrible and I want to cry too, I haven't slept in my bed for about a week, most nights only getting a little bit of sleep on the couch with both my girls falling asleep in my arms, and when one starts with a coughing fit everyone's awake again. Its horrible but when they are like that routine just goes out the window.

Hope your little one gets better soon

2 hours awake and 2 hours asleep thats fantasic keep going with that !!! and get some rest yourself when you can!