Just so over it!

So its 5 in the morning and have just gotten up with DD2 who is 6 months old after waking up every three hours during the night and then me having a 2 hour awake period from 2 until 4 because DD1 kept crying in her sleep. And then on top of that I have to do the school run for my step son and step daughter because DF has been in Melbourne all weekend. I know that DD2 is going to be screaming the whole time because she will be so tired by that point. So this morning have to somehow do breakfast, bottles and dress etc for my two then pack lunches, iron uniforms, do hairs etc for the other two with DD2 attached to me at the hip because I cannot leave the room without her or she cracks a mickey. I am just so over it! I feel so underappreciated and exhausted. I try and tell DF how I am feeling and I get a sympathetic oh really and that's it. I just wish that somebody would stand in my shoes for a day. Whenever DF has to have the kids alone he gets in his Mum in to help him. Gee I'd like some freaking help every single day that I have to look after two kids and then make sure that the house doesn't look like a bomb hit in by the time DF gets home.

Breathe in, breathe out.

You poor darling you sound exhausted, and I don't blame you. DF needs to start helping out, some men need to be told exactly what help you need so perhaps you could be specific with tasks that need to be done.

As for the step kids, how old are they, can they change on their own, can you make lunches the night before and have cereal for breakfast (quick and easy)?

As for DD2 I would be looking into why she is waking up so frequently at that age, could she be cold, hungry, dirty nappy? Perhaps you could try adding an extra layer of clothing, include a massive dinner or dessert for her to fill her tummy up.

Try and take one step at a time, you're tired and it probably feels you are carrying the world on your shoulders. I am sure though the kids are still healthy and fine, so you must be doing a great job already. Being a mum isn't easy, hang in there, hopefully dh will be home soon and drill into him that he needs to step up as father.

Goodluck smile

You poor thing. I have enough trouble with one sometimes. Df is a chef & works really long hours & hardly helps around the house or with ds. My only advice is to just let some things go. Don't stress about every bit of washing getting done straight away, every dish being clean, every toy in its place. Obviously you don't want a bomb site either but try not to put that much pressure on yourself because at the end of the day you are working so hard & doing such an awesome job that if you sit on the couch with a cup of tea & take 10 minutes for yourself to relax instead of vacuuming, who cares, you deserve it & the vacuuming can wait til tomorrow. If your man has a problem then tell him to do it himself.

Meh, leave the house a bomb site. If you leave it like that in a regular basis then on the odd occasion you have a good day and it's really spotless etc then it will be a really nice surprise. smile

Hope you can get it sorted and get dp to help out etc. how old are the kids?! I make dd make her own lunch and get her own breakfast, get herself dressed etc. I have to help with mains sometimes, and I have to help her with her hair but otherwise she does it all. She is 7 but has been doing this for 1-2 years now. smile

Otherwise try get as much as possible done the night before and head to bed when the kids do so you get as much sleep as possible. Or nap in the day if you can. smile good luck.