I'm wanting a bit of advice. It's a debated topic with my family & friends so I thought an outside opinion may help. Here goes....I'm a single mum to a 4 month old boy. His father and I were off and on for 4yrs when we found out I was pregnant, at the time we had also just split up. Throughout the whole of my pregnancy I never saw him, he never came to hospital visits, scans or antenatal classes. The first time I saw him was the day I went into labour with our son. Now he has seen my son 5 times since he was born, at 1 & 2 days old, 4wks, 9wks and 16wks. He doesn't call to see his son he will only text me but it's usually to ask to see him and then I get nothing back for a few days and it's usually followed by an excuse.
We have been fighting alot lately because he wants to have my son for a whole day without me. I don't agree with this and don't allow it but he thinks I'm being a selfish *. I have alot of resentment against him for the way he has treated me throughout this and also for how he is treating my son. Am I right to say no. I don't believe he should as he hasn't made an effort to see my son and the times he has it's usually because I push it on him. He will only make time tues-fri to see him the rest of the week he is uncontactable. Then he usually says that he is living his life, now I'm not talking about a teenager, I'm talking about a 25yr old man. What rights would I give him to my son as he hasn't made an effort yet and he doesn't know his son to a bar of soap and my son doesn't recognise or know him either. Or should I just give up, move on and forget him in the past because I don't want him doing this to my baby all his life!!
Thanks Jessy smile