My Huby is really anoying me

hello does anyone else feel the same?

I am a full time mum..with a 4 month old baby who is crys alot when its bed time. It can be stressfull I dont go out ever with her anymore as if she does not get enough sleep...she is cranky and harder to settle second time around.
so long story short , I feel my Huby has it easy he works from home , but goes out to jobs...he does help at night with Baby as usualy takes hours for her to go to sleep. really glad he helps.. but he seems stressed or depressed....
I feel depressed sometimes but I have to pick my self up for the baby...I am not moody...
he is .... I cant stand his up and down mood, he just seems to snap at little things and he is always taking like deep breaths and doesnt like it when i say have you brushed your teeth today lol

if he lost a bit of weight and brushed his teeth and didnt walk around in undies all day I would be much happier...
I told him tonight after 14 years I said you need to wear clothes around the house and stop snaping at me.. Also dont eat your breakfast standing at the kitchen bench it pisses me off.


so he told me i go to baby too much need to let her cry....more...

So i told him he needs to loose weight because im sick of his snoring..lol
I told him i brush my teeth and wear clothes and make an effort foryou..
he said no you dont you dont that for your self
I feel like i cant win..I think i am being way to picky? and just let these things slide
does anyone else find that there hubies piss them off...maybe it could be because he is home all the time.

Wow I feel for you. My DH goes to work outside the house and still pisses me off lol.
I don't know where to start to explain his behaviour at times so I won't all I will say is asking your husband to not be a slob is not being picky. You shouldn't have to tell him to brush his teeth or to sit down to eat or to put clothes on. I don't know why men think we want to see them without clothes on they are just not as good looking as they think they are =)

Hang in there. I wonder how he would react if you started to model his behaviour back at him; would he find it attractive? Probably not...

hello does anyone else feel the same?

I am a full time mum..with a 4 month old baby who is crys alot when its bed time. It can be stressfull I dont go out ever with her anymore as if she does not get enough sleep...she is cranky and harder to settle second time around.
so long story short , I feel my Huby has it easy he works from home , but goes out to jobs...he does help at night with Baby as usualy takes hours for her to go to sleep. really glad he helps.. but he seems stressed or depressed....
I feel depressed sometimes but I have to pick my self up for the baby...I am not moody...
he is .... I cant stand his up and down mood, he just seems to snap at little things and he is always taking like deep breaths and doesnt like it when i say have you brushed your teeth today lol

if he lost a bit of weight and brushed his teeth and didnt walk around in undies all day I would be much happier...
I told him tonight after 14 years I said you need to wear clothes around the house and stop snaping at me.. Also dont eat your breakfast standing at the kitchen bench it pisses me off.


so he told me i go to baby too much need to let her cry....more...

So i told him he needs to loose weight because im sick of his snoring..lol
I told him i brush my teeth and wear clothes and make an effort foryou..
he said no you dont you dont that for your self
I feel like i cant win..I think i am being way to picky? and just let these things slide
does anyone else find that there hubies piss them off...maybe it could be because he is home all the time.

Heya, Im sorry that you're having a rough time. probably not what you want to hear but i think that you maybe are being a little picky. All sleep deprived and exhausted Mums are!! If your DH is working from home, going out to jobs and is still helping you at night then it doesnt sound like he has it too easy to me. Iv'e worked from home before and its just as stressful as working on site/in the office!!

I think that getting out of the house with your DD will make you feel alot better, Even just a walk around the block so you can both get some fresh air. Being a stay at home Mum is isolating enough so try not to shut yourself off from the world too much sweet!!

I obviously don't know you or DH and have never had to deal with my DH walking around in his underwear before so can't help you with that haha... but... If I told my DH not to stand at the bench when he eats his breakfast because it "pisses me off" - He'd probably tell me where to go. He's a grown man and can eat his breakfast where ever he chooses to eat. If he makes a mess and gets cereal etc everywhere then make it clear that its his responsibility to clean up after himself.

If he is infact deppressed, then making comments about his weight isn't helping anyone. I do agree that not brushing his teeth is pretty gross though and he needs to get onto that haha. Tell him to get into the habbit now so that when your DD is old enough he is setting a good example.

Like you said though, the fact that he is home all the time is probably a contributing factor!! Go for a walk or do some window shopping or maybe go out to lunch/picnic as a family.

I was always hating on my DH in those early days so it is normal hun. All the best!! smile

lol welcome to the club there are times I could pack my bags and leave. I have the problem of my huby FIFO. He works 2 weeks away and then he's home for one week and annoys the hell out of me when home, I find Im more sensitive as my pregnancy progresses. It sounds to me like you both need a breather from each other (hence both picking on each other). Can he work away from home more, have an office set up away from the main house, have a babysitter to give you an evening off, organise a date night for just the two of you??? Good Luck smile

hello does anyone else feel the same?

I am a full time mum..with a 4 month old baby who is crys alot when its bed time. It can be stressfull I dont go out ever with her anymore as if she does not get enough sleep...she is cranky and harder to settle second time around.
so long story short , I feel my Huby has it easy he works from home , but goes out to jobs...he does help at night with Baby as usualy takes hours for her to go to sleep. really glad he helps.. but he seems stressed or depressed....
I feel depressed sometimes but I have to pick my self up for the baby...I am not moody...
he is .... I cant stand his up and down mood, he just seems to snap at little things and he is always taking like deep breaths and doesnt like it when i say have you brushed your teeth today lol

if he lost a bit of weight and brushed his teeth and didnt walk around in undies all day I would be much happier...
I told him tonight after 14 years I said you need to wear clothes around the house and stop snaping at me.. Also dont eat your breakfast standing at the kitchen bench it pisses me off.


so he told me i go to baby too much need to let her cry....more...

So i told him he needs to loose weight because im sick of his snoring..lol
I told him i brush my teeth and wear clothes and make an effort foryou..
he said no you dont you dont that for your self
I feel like i cant win..I think i am being way to picky? and just let these things slide
does anyone else find that there hubies piss them off...maybe it could be because he is home all the time.

OMG. I hear you on the teeth brushing and personal hygiene issues. My DH has been through moody periods for the last 10 years and when he starts to get down his personal hygiene is the first thing to go. If I ask him to take a shower and brush his teeth I feel like his mother, but it really does bother me a lot, and he goes off in a huff or just ignores me. He has been getting frustrated with the kids since bub was born 3 weeks ago and taking it out on me. I asked him last night to microwave the lasagne I had made earlier for the kids for dinner because I was feeding the baby and he takes a deep breath, sighs, and says with attitude 'ok'. It was as though he thought I was completely lazy and how dare I ask him to help. I snapped at him sarcastically only if it's not too much trouble. I'd hate to ask you to go to any trouble to help me out. He seemed to get the message then, but we will go through this again tonight when he gets home. lol.
I don't thing you are being too picky. Like you said you go to trouble to groom yourself and look nice even with a baby to care for so why shouldn't he have to. Especially if it really bothers you. Good luck sorting through this with your DH.

hey thanks guys some good reading.
We had a good talk i feel bad for saying all that to him but it was making me angry.
I have decided to relax on him walking around in undies...its really not a big deal but he will try to wear clothes. lol
I also realise him eating his breakfast at the bench is not a big deal either.
the breath well he says he will brushmorning night lol
and him getting anxious well I guess he does have alot on his plate
work home etc ect
Think my hormones were playing up last night...
I swear there still over the place must be breastfeeding or something.
I still think i have valid points but ona scale of one to ten there probably not that big..maybe 2 or 3
i think the go for a wslk get out have some break time is healthly for us.
is abit tricky when he works from home
hey good advice thanks peeps i feel better now.

OMG. I hear you on the teeth brushing and personal hygiene issues. My DH has been through moody periods for the last 10 years and when he starts to get down his personal hygiene is the first thing to go. If I ask him to take a shower and brush his teeth I feel like his mother, but it really does bother me a lot, and he goes off in a huff or just ignores me. He has been getting frustrated with the kids since bub was born 3 weeks ago and taking it out on me. I asked him last night to microwave the lasagne I had made earlier for the kids for dinner because I was feeding the baby and he takes a deep breath, sighs, and says with attitude 'ok'. It was as though he thought I was completely lazy and how dare I ask him to help. I snapped at him sarcastically only if it's not too much trouble. I'd hate to ask you to go to any trouble to help me out. He seemed to get the message then, but we will go through this again tonight when he gets home. lol.
I don't thing you are being too picky. Like you said you go to trouble to groom yourself and look nice even with a baby to care for so why shouldn't he have to. Especially if it really bothers you. Good luck sorting through this with your DH.

hey i feel for ya mate
I bet you raced around in the kitchen getting that larzana cooked. you were not asking much
looking after a 3 week old baby is hard enough.'
you could try just saying hey honey would you mind having a shower please i like it when you smell nice

i think I was using a tone in my voice
i will stop that from now lol it seems to help ...
goodluck with everything ...men can be great but they lack on personal hygene lol

lol welcome to the club there are times I could pack my bags and leave. I have the problem of my huby FIFO. He works 2 weeks away and then he's home for one week and annoys the hell out of me when home, I find Im more sensitive as my pregnancy progresses. It sounds to me like you both need a breather from each other (hence both picking on each other). Can he work away from home more, have an office set up away from the main house, have a babysitter to give you an evening off, organise a date night for just the two of you??? Good Luck smile

omg my moods were so bad when pregant
i hated everything then one day later i loved life lol
it was full on....
cant get out at night witching hours lol
he starts his new job soon so he will be out of house more
think i was justa bit emotional yesterday!! i am good now lol
good luck with everything!! too.

Heya, Im sorry that you're having a rough time. probably not what you want to hear but i think that you maybe are being a little picky. All sleep deprived and exhausted Mums are!! If your DH is working from home, going out to jobs and is still helping you at night then it doesnt sound like he has it too easy to me. Iv'e worked from home before and its just as stressful as working on site/in the office!!

I think that getting out of the house with your DD will make you feel alot better, Even just a walk around the block so you can both get some fresh air. Being a stay at home Mum is isolating enough so try not to shut yourself off from the world too much sweet!!

I obviously don't know you or DH and have never had to deal with my DH walking around in his underwear before so can't help you with that haha... but... If I told my DH not to stand at the bench when he eats his breakfast because it "pisses me off" - He'd probably tell me where to go. He's a grown man and can eat his breakfast where ever he chooses to eat. If he makes a mess and gets cereal etc everywhere then make it clear that its his responsibility to clean up after himself.

If he is infact deppressed, then making comments about his weight isn't helping anyone. I do agree that not brushing his teeth is pretty gross though and he needs to get onto that haha. Tell him to get into the habbit now so that when your DD is old enough he is setting a good example.

Like you said though, the fact that he is home all the time is probably a contributing factor!! Go for a walk or do some window shopping or maybe go out to lunch/picnic as a family.

I was always hating on my DH in those early days so it is normal hun. All the best!! smile

well said too!!

Heya, Im sorry that you're having a rough time. probably not what you want to hear but i think that you maybe are being a little picky. All sleep deprived and exhausted Mums are!! If your DH is working from home, going out to jobs and is still helping you at night then it doesnt sound like he has it too easy to me. Iv'e worked from home before and its just as stressful as working on site/in the office!!

I think that getting out of the house with your DD will make you feel alot better, Even just a walk around the block so you can both get some fresh air. Being a stay at home Mum is isolating enough so try not to shut yourself off from the world too much sweet!!

I obviously don't know you or DH and have never had to deal with my DH walking around in his underwear before so can't help you with that haha... but... If I told my DH not to stand at the bench when he eats his breakfast because it "pisses me off" - He'd probably tell me where to go. He's a grown man and can eat his breakfast where ever he chooses to eat. If he makes a mess and gets cereal etc everywhere then make it clear that its his responsibility to clean up after himself.

If he is infact deppressed, then making comments about his weight isn't helping anyone. I do agree that not brushing his teeth is pretty gross though and he needs to get onto that haha. Tell him to get into the habbit now so that when your DD is old enough he is setting a good example.

Like you said though, the fact that he is home all the time is probably a contributing factor!! Go for a walk or do some window shopping or maybe go out to lunch/picnic as a family.

I was always hating on my DH in those early days so it is normal hun. All the best!! smile

well said too!!

Must be a guy thing eating breakfast standing over the bench. He sits down for all his other meals.
When I was at home full time with our babies (I work 3 days a week now) I was envious of DF going out to work and he was envious of me staying home with our girls. The grass is always greener...

Must be a guy thing eating breakfast standing over the bench. He sits down for all his other meals.
When I was at home full time with our babies (I work 3 days a week now) I was envious of DF going out to work and he was envious of me staying home with our girls. The grass is always greener...

I can't believe you backed down and blamed yourself for being 'hormonal'! My guy gave me the shits for the first three months of my first child...now he lives somewhere else and I know I am better off for it. I can't see why I have to do everything, and if was to be the case, then I was going to everything for my child and he can go out and do things for himself, to this day he asks to come back and he will be different (though he still has not sacrificed anything). I beleive the sacrific a woman gives to bring on a child should be revered and respected. So I came to the conclusion that he wasn't ready to be a Dad, as it should have come to him that he wasn't the most important anymore, the child is.