Im a dad of a new born who is about 2 weeks old now and I don't feel like I'm coping very well with the whole situation.
We are back at home now and my girlfriend is very attentive to the needs of our new baby and I do what I can in terms of nappy changes and bathing but our boy is pretty good and only generally cries when he is hungry. My gf has a milk oversupply problem so she needs to empty her breasts each session or they get very hard and uncomfy for her.
I'm finding the change of dynamic in the sense that my gf is constantly preoccupied with the baby and nothing else very difficult to adjust to. I feel kind of useless and not needed in terms of looking after the baby as she likes to do most things herself although I do the odd changes, and help with bathing, and settling him where I can.
I hope that me doing this stuff and spending time with him improves the bond that I have with our baby but so far I feel its not working. Im finding fatherhood not very enjoyable as I feel like I've gained a son at the expense of any time, intimacy or attention that I used to enjoy from/with my partner. Ive read a lot of stuff online that says this is a common feeling for guys and that it passes but for some reason Im worried it won't. Im worried that I will feel affection starved for a very long time, and the fact that I am feeling this interferes with the enjoyment I should be experiencing at having a son.
My girlfriend and I constantly tell each other we love one another, although rather than just living in the moment I find myself just waiting and hanging out for when we can enjoy affection and a level of intimacy or romance again. And then I feel like Im being selfish because I feel this way which doesnt help either.
I've become a bit withdrawn from my gf and I find it more difficult to talk and communicate with her as time goes on, hopefully this passes and I get more used to and accustomed to the way things are.
I was wondering if anyone knows of any newborn dads support groups or something where dads sit around and talk about their experiences. I think it would be great to be able to talk to some other people in similar situations. I've looked online but cant really find any. I feel a bit cut off at present because I dont really have a bond with my new son, my gf is pretty much preoccupied with him and my beloved dog is still staying at my mums until my gf gets comfy with the baby at home so I dont even have my pooch to give me some company at the moment.
Any comments or advice appreciated. Thanks so much for reading.