he cannot drive, does not work, does not answer the phone and has social anxiety meaning he cannot speak to other couples in the community so he often hides or goes to sleep when people come to visit or he shakes their hand then leaves, there is only one couple he sits in the same room with but he never talks
when i confront him about not working he cries, as i am supporting him financially and myu baby and am still sick with post partum eclampsia and depression as well as c section recovery so i am driving around dropping in C.Vs and have told him this morning he will have to go back to england if he does not get a job as his visa expires in september, he knows that and said he loves me and would do anything so i said wlel do this and get a job, help out more with the baby not just times u are awake.
i wish i could move around more but i cannot i cant even assemble my babys car seat or pram yet but if he is asleep he wont wake up to help so i have to arrange times to go out with baby for her appointments with doctors and plunket when he is awake, no matter how many times i tell him, confront him and talk to him, he is stubborn and reverts back to his old ways, and cries, he cries alot.
sometimes i feel he puts his love for herbal products above us too, he was always buying kava and stuff like that which is legal i know but he put so much emphasis on how important it was that i was in tears during my second trimester of pregnancy because when he did work temporarily he spent the five hundred dollars all on herbal stuff, and left one hundred to pay for board as we live with our parents, he did apologize and do a bit of housework as he does none unless he is asked
what do i do? my parents think if i give him too many chances i am enabling him to be a son rather than a husband and a man, should i leave?
i am confused and need help but he wont go to counselling for relationship stuff