Summer Rose wont have her daddy around for a few months :(

Due to financial issues and my DH being able to find a job on a work visa, he has to go back to england and his parents can afford the return ticket as its much cheaper than applying for residency which he can get but its going to cost in total over 900 dollars whereas a return flight from NZ to UK then back NZ is only around 650pounds for them so he is going home, working for his dads business for five to seven months then applying for residency when he has more money and more drive as he needs psychiatric help and cannot get it for free here as he is not a citizen also his prescription antidepressants are too expensive as they are not funded. He takes effexor like me and unfunded its around forty dollars a month instead of three dollars for three months :/ so yeah its the only way but I do not know how We will both handle the long distance marriage thing sad He will hopefully be back by may 2013 for summers first birthday which is the day before our anniversary so we will have a massive celebration
he leaves the end of september with his parents as they are coming out to see the baby so from September to the end of april its going to be so so so so hard. He is going to miss our little girl and her milestones. I can send him videos and pics via facebook and msn and we will skype but its not the same

yeah just venting because I am going to miss him so much

You poor thing. It's ashame we need money to live hay !!!!!
Im a single parant and find it hard enough to cope. Taking heap's of photo's and video via skype will be great for him to be able to keep in touch with your daughter, it will be hard for those couple of month's but just think at the end of it your husband can become a resident hopfully and you wont have to worry about it again.
Good luck with everything.

Im sorry, i don't know how i would be able to handle DD without my husband around. I am sure you will battle through, you can do it smile I don't know any way of being able to help, just wanted to say all the best and we are thinking of you... You always have Huggies to keep you company wink

thank you ladies, I will need lots of friends and do have a play group to go to and mingle with other solo mothers but at least its not divorce or separation due to marital issues,we love each other I even dedicated the song "Right here waiting" to him xoxo

I'm confused, you say applying for residency would cost you guys about $900. But here flights to england and back will be about £650?! Translating the £650 to nzd means you will be paying $1300 for flights, instead of $900 for residency?!

And personally if my dh was going to England for that long then I would be going with him... Doesn't make much sense to me to be honest. Certainly not to somewhere so far away as England (the other side of the world!!!)

But regardless, good luck! It's easy enough to get ino a routine without dh and. I fin the house etc stays so much cleaner when dh on work trips. Lol. Hope he doesn't miss too much while he's gone. No way could I handle being away from my baby for that long tho!!!

Hey Arisa, we have recently done the whole residency thing too with my DH. If he doesn't get awarded residency he will have to go back to his country too, to reapply sad We're waiting to hear now what is going to happen. I'm pretty confident he will get it, but its damm scary all the same.

Unfortunatly if he doesn't get residency I would stay behind too. Its all well and good for people to say why would you not go too but if you go too you face the exact same problems with immigration just reversed, and only harder because I wouldn't be able to work over there so would be trying to apply to stay longer than the 3 months as a SAHM... hard.

Just a heads up (chances are you already know this but) it actually cost us closer to $2000 to apply as you have to pay for a full medical, chest x ray, bloods, any relevant police records and bridging visa.

Its all such a head ache hey?! Can't imagine how awful it must be for you guys, dealing with your other medical issues as well at the moment. The whole immigration thing is so stressful.

So yeah, I know how you are feeling. What a hard decision. Hopefully your DH comes back well and you both can carry on with your lives. xxx