Breastfeeding is difficult for all first time mums - I don't know anyone who didn't find it difficult!
There are various problems that can be caused by various things. pcos wont neccesarily BE the cause of your problems, because there are women out there who have the same problem, and don't have pcos.
The best thing anyone ever told me was that the first 6 weeks are the hardest, and if you can stick it out for 6 weeks you'll feed for as long as you like.
I really struggled, I cried, I wanted to throw it in, I had cracked and bleeding nipples... my toes would curl from the pain every time she latched on. Every time feed time was coming up I'd almost hyperventilate and have to build up the courage to put her back on. But I did it.
And yes, at 6 weeks, I noticed that it had been slowly getting a whole lot easier. A couple more weeks after that and I was a pro, it didn't hurt, and the world was all good in terms of breastfeeding. My dd was bf til 13 months old, and in that time I had pressure from all my family to give up and give her formula.
Of course there's nothing wrong with going to formula if you can't do it. I guess what I'm saying is that when it's not going right, if you really want to do it - you have to persist beyond what you think you're capable of.
The thing is, not only do you need to learn how to breastfeed, but so does your baby. As time goes by, baby learns what feels right, and what gets results - and by a few months old will start to do it without your guidance. By the time my baby was 6 months old I could literally stick my boob near her head and she'd just jump on.
I'm going to bf this time round too, and I'm HOPING it'll be a little easier in that I know what the correct attachment is.
My tips for successful breastfeeding are:
-Use Lasinoh cream after every feed, right from the start. Don't wait til you're sore to use it. Prevention is best!
-If baby doesn't feel like she is attached right, she's not. Take her off and start again even if you have a midwife (or somebody) telling you different. You are the only one that can FEEL what's going on!
-As soon as you start to get sore, alternate your feeds using a nipple shield. As in... use the sheild for 2 feeds (left and right breasts), then feed without the shields the next time. My dd did not get 'nipple confusion' if there is such a thing and it saved my breasts and my sanity.
-If it is all to much to bear, express the feed and give it in a bottle. This alternative stopped me from giving up altogether.
-If this is your first child RESEARCH CORRECT ATTACHMENT methods. I didn't do this and I should have! There are some techniques; nipple to nose, babys lips are turned outwards like a rosebud, baby has a big mouthful of breast.
-To take baby off the breast, never just pull them off. It hurts! Put your little finger into the corner of babys mouth to break the suction and she will naturally just come away from the breast.
And remember.... whatever way you choose to get the milk into the baby is a success!!! I have a friend who no longer breastfeeds as such, but expresses every feed for her baby and gives it in a bottle. It's extra work for her but it was the only way she could make it happen due to her having extremely flat nipples.