So I tore the cartilage in my knee just over a week ago. It is still pretty sore. Haven't done much in the way of house work other than washing cooking dishes and looking after kids. DH has done nothing he spends his time on the computer watching utube clips and whatever else he does in there. He has never offered to cook dinner he did the dishes last night first time. Now he has gone surfing for the day probably won't see him till late this arvo.
And he wonders why I am walking on my sore knee duh I don't have a choice the kids need to be fed and they need clean clothes.
To top it off I have an assignment to finish today but am finding it very difficult to look after two kids and concentrate on study.
Funny how when it was him with knee problems I had to do everything for him but when the shoe is on the other foot he doesn't help out at all.
Oh well vent over back to the kids and study

Men always act like it alot worse/sore than it really is. And us women have to do it even when there's alot pain.

Do you have any family members who can help you out?

Men always act like it alot worse/sore than it really is. And us women have to do it even when there's alot pain.

Do you have any family members who can help you out?

No family are all miles away so I just have the kids here to help out not that they are being to helpful today.
oh well might be a late night tonight finishing this assignment.

Don't cook dinner. He needs to be helping you. You will have to remember this for the next time he sick/hurt.

have you actually asked him directly for help? i think sometimes others (not only men) dont realise just how much we may need help until we point it out. maybe if you tell him honestly how ur feeling and what pain ur in and genuinely ask him for specific help with a few things hell be a bit better? he may just be seeing the fact that somehow youve managed to get things done around the house still (and i imagine that must be so hard for you XX) and has underestimated the extent of your pain and hasnt really considered that your not truely coping.

I agree with Gyspy. Sometimes we just don't think about how something like a sore knee, changes things and we don't even think that people need extra help.
I would talk to DH and just say that you need help. We expect males to just know stuff, but reality is they wouldn't even think unless we reminded them lol

We were just in a simular situation ourselves. I was sick and had to look after myself, DD and DF. NOW DD is sick and needs extra care. I had to actually sit DF down and explain all this atleast 3 times before it actually sunk in Males! Sometimes it's like i have 2 kids hahah grin

Hope you recover quickly!

I agree with Gypsy too!
I think you should ask for help. I never ask for help - I have to admit that sometimes when i have I have NOT got the answer I needed/wanted.
But do it anyway! And keep doing it!!! Be strong girl and good luck!!!

I think it may just be a male thing, My partner was sick for the weekened, I was like a slave for 48hours for him and two kids (including a newborn). moaning and groaning like he was about to die.

He recovered then I got the bug, he took a couple of days off, I thought awesome I could recoperate without having to do everything but I still got up bathed two kids feed them and my partner and managed an hour of sleep

Yay big ups to my partner managed to play on the computer all day!