After DD was born, DP and my relationship went a bit downhill. I think just from extreme exhaustion and frustration we would find ourselves arguing at 3 o'clock in the morning about ridiculous things, I found myself doubting our relationship and our sex life lost its spark. It wasn't until DD started sleeping through at 11 months that we started to come good again.

I am semi-preparing myself for this to happen again with baby number 2 coming along. Not in a i'm-putting-a-defence-wall-up way but in a way where I have told DP of my concerns that our relationship may slump for a while again. Did anybody find that baby number 2 affected their relationship as much as baby number 1 or were you better prepared for it the second time around?

Our relationship changed but in a good way. We were so much better after DD In every aspect even at bedtime wink I think it had alot to do with the labour though it was a really beautiful labour and birth and it bought us much closer together smile and DD slept really well whereas DS didn't sleep at all! We really struggled after DS so it was so good for the opposite this time smile

i think the snapping at each other at 3 in the morning is generally normal. you are so tired, exhausted, want to go back to sleep e.t.c. however, when we went through this, i would say to my husband "i know i have been snapping lately, just bare with me, it will stop soon". He was so gratefull for this, and just let me have my say some days. i think he understoos that being a stay at home mum, was a lot more exhausting than a dad that goes to work.

just try to communicate with each other and appoligise for any unpleasent situations.
good luck