Any one have any thoughts? words of wisdom?

Do what feels right for you : )
It will be hard before it gets easier but it is worth it if you know its the right move for you to make.

Just make sure it is for the right reasons and that it is what you really want. My DF left me and out son two weeks ago. It came as a huge shock he just said things did not feel right. I thought things were great. He just thinks things are going to be fantastic now and we will just be best friends but I am heart broken. I do not think he has really thought about the consequences of walking away are.

If he's been abusive or cheated then ignore this...

If it's just because things are not the same as they were before kids...then really think about it. I have 2 older kids and another due any day now.
When the older ones were little we went through times when all it seemed about was the kids. We kind of lost us, and life became a round of child care. He was working longish hours and I was at home. My role felt like I was looking after the kids and also after him. At times it felt like we had lost the 'spark', though I never stopped loving him.
However as the kids got older and I returned to work things have changed again... I really do think that babies and kids put a huge strain on relationships, but if you can weather it you will come out stronger.

i always think, that unless a spouse has cheated or are abusive, then everything else you can work out e.g finiacial or emotional issues.

remind yourself that you are only human, and times do get tough, especially with children. your lives will change, but in the tougher times, try and think of the better times. try and have some alone time with your partner and try to reconnect again. if this doesn't happen (the reconnecting part) then maybe your heart is telling it's time to move on. you could always try councelling aswell.

relationships/marriages can be hard work, and both partners need to willing to work out problems that arise. you may find communicating to each other, and telling each other how you feel and what your expectations are, might help.

goodluck

me and my ex had been together for about 7 years it never felt right and i wasnt happy ( he never cheated or hurt me) and i stayed thinking it was the best thing for the kids However since we have broken up he has taken the dad thing 100% better he values them more spends more time with them etc i couldnt even go to lunch for 1/2 hour alone (let alone the toilet etc lol) and i prefere being on my own for a while i have got a new partner now my kids love but they still see there dad all the time and they love it !! do what feels right in ur heart and it will be tough to be a single mummy if u decide to go thru with it but it gets better !!!
if he is hurtful deffentally leave ! i know thats hard but it will be better
good luck with ur situation smile