I have just dropped my son off at my ex DF so he can have Christmas lunch with his great grandparents. A lunch that 2 weeks ago I was going to. It will be sons first Christmas and I should be with him. This split was not my choice and I did not see it coming. We had so much planned for this Christmas I wanted it to be so special and now I am left feeling so sad. My ex has all his family where we live and we were meant to be spending christmas with them. My family lives 5 hours away. He has all this support around him even though his family do not agree with what he has done. I am just so lonely. This is not fair. Does it ever get easier?

Oh sweetheart Big Hugs to you. I'm sorry your going through this. Is there anyway you could go to your family on Christmas or could they come to you? If not make Christmas a special day for the two of you. How old is your son? Are you planning to stay in the town you live in because it might be easier if you moved to live closer to your family where you would have some support. I know things are hard for you but I hope that you and your son have a nice Christmas smile

Oh bonnyboy, I'm so so sorry. sad I wish I could give you a big hug. I agree with I LOVE MY BABES, if at all possible you should go to your family for Christmas at least and think about moving back there if you are allowed with custody arrangements. I wish there was something more I can say, but I'm thinking of you. Take care.

Thanks for reading and responding. My son is 9 months old so he will have no idea what is going on this Christmas, it is all stuff really that I had wanted to do. I set up the Christmas tree with him this afternoon when he got home and danced around the house to Christmas songs. Christmas has always been a really big thing for my family so I just wanted to pass on those traditions to my son. My ex came over to discuss finances this afternoon and Christmas/holidays (we were meant to be going away to the beach for 10 days). We are now going to have Christmas day together on Christmas eve and give our son his presents. I will then drive to be with my family for the actual day. I will also be going away to the beach as planned so my ex will not see our son for 2 weeks. I am starting counselling tomorrow to help me through this difficult time. I have not yet made up my mind about what to do in the future re moving closer to my family. I suppose this is because I still have alot of hope that we can sort this out. Hopefully counselling will also help me move forward a bit as at the moment I am just feel so lost.

I wish all the best for the future what ever that may bring

Good luck and have a merry christmas

Hey thats great that you are spending Christmas with your family. I hope you have a nice day and also a nice break away at the beach it might be just what you need to get you through to the next stage of your life. I'm glad you and your son had fun together putting up the tree. I understand you are feeling lost at the moment hopefully counselling can help you with that. Is there a chance that your ex and you may get back together after having a break apart? I wish you lots of luck anyway for your future. smile

Thanks lovely ladies for your kind words. This has been a really crap Christmas so far lol. To make things worse my son needs x-rays done on his hips this Friday and I have had a massive tooth ache and need a root canal done so that is getting done Friday morning, plus I got a $200 fine saying that my car is unregistered when it is so I have to go the to council for fight that. Hopefully that is all my bad luck and now things will start getting better.

I am hoping that there is still a chance with my DF but who knows. Unfortunately at the moment he is calling all the shots. I just really miss my best friend.

I am hoping that time apart will help clear his head a bit over the Christmas break. It will be three weeks tomorrow since all of this has happened and I swear they have been the slowest 3 weeks of my life.

Like you said being around my family over the holiday season will be good support for me.

Here's wishing the New Year brings lots of happiness to me and everyone else.