ok, long story short. MIL has never liked me for some reason. she is an alchoholic, a pill popper, a liar and a sorry excuse for a mother/human being.

after 12 long years of her bullsh!t last year i cut them (the inlaw FIL is no better)off.

now come december it was my sons birthday and they sent him a presant by courier. when i opened the package i found one big presant and about 4 small presants. the thing is that the wrapping looked like it had been opened and put back together where the sticky tape was and other were just ripped open. i thought it was strange i showed my dh, he made excuses for them, i said she was proberly drunk.

now a few days ago i received 2 packages and it was from them. i opened them up and and once again the presants were ripped open, this time worse. it looked like they had been poked and ripped open 3/4 time. the envelpoes were not sealed, just opened.

i just imagine her doing in spite and anger to get a reaction from us. i so badly want to rig her and tell her were to shove her presant but don't want to give her the satisfaction. she will deny it of course.

am i over reacting? would it piss you off?

It depends actually if it continues all the time as sometimes they check the products if they look suspicious as they have to also if she doesn't know how to wrap properly( as some people just can't wrap) but if all those were ruled out then yes it would

the packages were sealed and had not been tampered with and we have received presants from her before that were normally wrapped.

the packages were sealed and had not been tampered with and we have received presants from her before that were normally wrapped.

well then yes that's just spiteful

That's pretty dam petty and pathetic to go out of your way to mangle things and send them blink
She sounds like a spiteful old woman with nothin better to do don't let her get the best of you though she peob did it to get a bite outta you don't waist your time or breathe on some one soo pathetic

ok, long story short. MIL has never liked me for some reason. she is an alchoholic, a pill popper, a liar and a sorry excuse for a mother/human being.

after 12 long years of her bullsh!t last year i cut them (the inlaw FIL is no better)off.

now come december it was my sons birthday and they sent him a presant by courier. when i opened the package i found one big presant and about 4 small presants. the thing is that the wrapping looked like it had been opened and put back together where the sticky tape was and other were just ripped open. i thought it was strange i showed my dh, he made excuses for them, i said she was proberly drunk.

now a few days ago i received 2 packages and it was from them. i opened them up and and once again the presants were ripped open, this time worse. it looked like they had been poked and ripped open 3/4 time. the envelpoes were not sealed, just opened.

i just imagine her doing in spite and anger to get a reaction from us. i so badly want to rig her and tell her were to shove her presant but don't want to give her the satisfaction. she will deny it of course.

am i over reacting? would it piss you off?

I do think its strange... but if she's an alcoholic and pops pills... there's a fair chance she was off her trolly when she "wrapped" the presents. I dont think it would have been done to annoy you, I mean why bother getting presents and sending them by courier.

I'd re-wrap them and give them to your DS and forget about it.

Oh and there's always the possibilty that someone at the courier company or Aust post did open them and then reseal the package. We've received parcels from overseas that were opened and repacked again. There are unfortunately dodgy types who go through peoples packages to see if there's anything they'd like, maybe after discovering it was for a little kid they attempted to rewrap.

Merry Christmas smile dont let the freaks get you down grin

I do think its strange... but if she's an alcoholic and pops pills... there's a fair chance she was off her trolly when she "wrapped" the presents. I dont think it would have been done to annoy you, I mean why bother getting presents and sending them by courier.

I'd re-wrap them and give them to your DS and forget about it.

Oh and there's always the possibilty that someone at the courier company or Aust post did open them and then reseal the package. We've received parcels from overseas that were opened and repacked again. There are unfortunately dodgy types who go through peoples packages to see if there's anything they'd like, maybe after discovering it was for a little kid they attempted to rewrap.

Merry Christmas smile dont let the freaks get you down grin

it's possible she was "under the influence" but she has been like this for a long time and most of the time she know exactly what she is doing.

it did cross my mind that they did it at the post office but it wasn't going overseas or through customs. it was just the local post office going to another local suburb, the reason she couriers them is because we have nothing to do with them and don't see them.

aaahhhh she annoys me. anyway, i'll get over it.

Don't let it get to you. If she's and alcoholic or pill popper as you say, then she was probably wasted while wrapping them. Why don't you just re-wrap them and make the presents look nice again smile
On the positive, at least she's still giving your kids gifts!

Don't let it get to you. If she's and alcoholic or pill popper as you say, then she was probably wasted while wrapping them. Why don't you just re-wrap them and make the presents look nice again smile
On the positive, at least she's still giving your kids gifts!

That's what I was thinking at least she thought of them my mil is such a fn b!tch bag my kids won't see jack crap outta the nasty troll.
Just forget it Hun not worth starting more drama over in her mind she prob thought she did a wonderful job lol

If she's made the effort to purchase and courier gifts for your sons birthday then i really don't think she unwrapped and rewrapped them to specifically p!ss you off. Who knows what goes through the mind of an alcoholic? More than likely she's forgotten what was in there, unwrapped to check and rewrapped them badly.

She may not like you and you may not like her but in the end its the thought that counts and she was obviously thinking of her grandson. So either give the gifts to your son as is or wrap them properly either way no harm no foul. Oh, and don't forget to call and thank her, show that you're the better person. wink

Just re wrap the presents don't let her upset you by this.

It better not to let her get to you because you are a better person.

If she's made the effort to purchase and courier gifts for your sons birthday then i really don't think she unwrapped and rewrapped them to specifically p!ss you off. Who knows what goes through the mind of an alcoholic? More than likely she's forgotten what was in there, unwrapped to check and rewrapped them badly.

She may not like you and you may not like her but in the end its the thought that counts and she was obviously thinking of her grandson. So either give the gifts to your son as is or wrap them properly either way no harm no foul. Oh, and don't forget to call and thank her, show that you're the better person. wink

you obviously don't know what she is capable of, there is 12 years of history that you are unaware of, so i don't know how you can say that she didn't do it to piss me of?

there was no "thought" behind these gifts, it is a form of manipulation. specifically so me or dh can ring and ask why the wrapping was ripped, which she will deny doing and them imediately ring every relative and cry and say that we swore to her and hold her off. she has done this many times before and i have played right into it but not this time.

to me it takes more that sending gifts (with mangled wrapping) to show that they are grandparents. you have to earn that right. they hardly ever made an effort to spend time with their grandkids and hardly ever called and when they did they didn't even ask about them.

she has 2 sons and they both have nothing to do with her and actually dispise her for how she raised them and what she did to them.

soooo nah, i won't be calling to thank them.

oh, and i don't need to show that i'm a better person than her just by not having them in my life makes me a better person wink

i know this might seem petty to some but after years and years of character assasiation, lies, betrayal, spitfulness and nastiness i've had enough. i was always the one to keep the peace, to turn the other cheek and to forgive and forget but i feel these people are like poison, toxic and even when i have nothing to do with them they still try to find a way to get to me, it frustrating.

Just re wrap the presents don't let her upset you by this.

It better not to let her get to you because you are a better person.

thank you

I had a similar thing happen with a family member and i ended up cutting them out all together. They would do things just so i would have to talk to them but then suck up and tell me how much they love us and blah blah. They would then run back and tell everyone how much of a b#@$h i am and how spoilt my son is.
Some people thinks it's petty and that they deserve to be in my sons life but i think my son deserves better. I will not allow them to have any sort of influence or input into my sons upbringing and none of us need the bull that comes along with them.
Anyways, yes i would be p'd off and you don't need to prove nothing to noone! smile Merry Christmas!!

if my mum sent my DS a present when i wasn't talking to her i would be pissed at her so yeah i think you have the right to be annoyed


at this stage if my mum sent DS a present i would send it back to her...
i'm not saying you should though

I had a similar thing happen with a family member and i ended up cutting them out all together. They would do things just so i would have to talk to them but then suck up and tell me how much they love us and blah blah. They would then run back and tell everyone how much of a b#@$h i am and how spoilt my son is.
Some people thinks it's petty and that they deserve to be in my sons life but i think my son deserves better. I will not allow them to have any sort of influence or input into my sons upbringing and none of us need the bull that comes along with them.
Anyways, yes i would be p'd off and you don't need to prove nothing to noone! smile Merry Christmas!!

thanks for understanding and your right some people don't deserve to be in our childrens lives.

merry xmas smile

if my mum sent my DS a present when i wasn't talking to her i would be pissed at her so yeah i think you have the right to be annoyed


at this stage if my mum sent DS a present i would send it back to her...
i'm not saying you should though

believe me i want to send them back but i don't think i'm bothered dealing with the backlash and drama that will go with it.

believe me i want to send them back but i don't think i'm bothered dealing with the backlash and drama that will go with it.

yeah well thats the down side probabaly not worth it

with my mum she would probabaly say some sh!t on facebook but she's blocked so we wouldn't know so wouldn't have to deal with it and we dont speak to anyone that speaks to her so its a bit different

hope you feel better soon and she stops being petty smile

could they be from someone else passed on through her and she just had to have a sticky beak at them??? it is strange to wrap them only to trash them, but then again strange people do strange things!!
I have family that we pretend don't exisit but unfortunatly they find ways to remind us they around, try to push it aside and enjoy your christmas with the family you do love!!!

My MIL is also a druggy and a alcoholic, I know how disgustingly spiteful they can be. I especially related when you mentioned that she has told people you have been rude to her and told her off etc. My MIL does this too, I used to always play into her hands and bite but now I just kill her with kindness.

Maybe get some same level pay back, send her a bad xmas card with deepest sympathy on it or 'something with Merry Xmas! thanks for the presents! love blah blah blah' written in it that would really rip her nightie laugh

My MIL is also a druggy and a alcoholic, I know how disgustingly spiteful they can be. I especially related when you mentioned that she has told people you have been rude to her and told her off etc. My MIL does this too, I used to always play into her hands and bite but now I just kill her with kindness.

Maybe get some same level pay back, send her a bad xmas card with deepest sympathy on it or 'something with Merry Xmas! thanks for the presents! love blah blah blah' written in it that would really rip her nightie laugh

LOL i like the way you think.

maybe i should get a card rip it up a bit and just write thanks for the presents, i liked the wrapping inside laugh

thanks for the laugh

you obviously don't know what she is capable of, there is 12 years of history that you are unaware of, so i don't know how you can say that she didn't do it to piss me of?

there was no "thought" behind these gifts, it is a form of manipulation. specifically so me or dh can ring and ask why the wrapping was ripped, which she will deny doing and them imediately ring every relative and cry and say that we swore to her and hold her off. she has done this many times before and i have played right into it but not this time.

to me it takes more that sending gifts (with mangled wrapping) to show that they are grandparents. you have to earn that right. they hardly ever made an effort to spend time with their grandkids and hardly ever called and when they did they didn't even ask about them.

she has 2 sons and they both have nothing to do with her and actually dispise her for how she raised them and what she did to them.

soooo nah, i won't be calling to thank them.

oh, and i don't need to show that i'm a better person than her just by not having them in my life makes me a better person wink

i know this might seem petty to some but after years and years of character assasiation, lies, betrayal, spitfulness and nastiness i've had enough. i was always the one to keep the peace, to turn the other cheek and to forgive and forget but i feel these people are like poison, toxic and even when i have nothing to do with them they still try to find a way to get to me, it frustrating.

I understand completely. I am going on 10 years of the same thing with the in laws.

My advice is to not say anything about the wrapping paper, people like this do things like that so you will say something. And you know what? It's always something like a bit of torn wrapping paper, and you think to yourself for years are they seriously doing petty things like this on purpose or could it be Aust Post or courier like other people have said?

We both know mil did it on purpose. You are not crazy or paranoid, you are right.

I also would not be calling and saying thank you either. You know it's not about the presents for your kids. How about showing some respect for their mother, that would be the best present of all and something that your kids will always remember.

Well thats just my opinion and yes I have a strong opinion as I can just imagine everything that you have been through for all those years and when you have children it is worse and it hits you harder because now your kids either miss out or have to pay the price by having s stressed out/upset mother.

I understand completely. I am going on 10 years of the same thing with the in laws.

My advice is to not say anything about the wrapping paper, people like this do things like that so you will say something. And you know what? It's always something like a bit of torn wrapping paper, and you think to yourself for years are they seriously doing petty things like this on purpose or could it be Aust Post or courier like other people have said?

We both know mil did it on purpose. You are not crazy or paranoid, you are right.

I also would not be calling and saying thank you either. You know it's not about the presents for your kids. How about showing some respect for their mother, that would be the best present of all and something that your kids will always remember.

Well thats just my opinion and yes I have a strong opinion as I can just imagine everything that you have been through for all those years and when you have children it is worse and it hits you harder because now your kids either miss out or have to pay the price by having s stressed out/upset mother.

thank you for understanding.

and your right it is one of those situations where you know full well it was done on purpose to stir trouble.

i hope that you can get some peace from your inlaws and i can tell you take the higher road, so good on you.