This is not directed at anyone and no one really needs to respond it is just good to vent and write things down. The Ex and I have been having problems for a few months. I put it down to him being a bit depressed after bubs. He moved out and I really hoped that some time apart would help things a little and he would realise that this (we) were what he really wanted. But turns out it has had the opposite effect. It seems I am pushing him to spend time with our son and going for drinks after work and Christmas parties are more important now. I was pushing last night to get more of a reason as to why he left and I said that if you loved someone once you can get back there again. But he basically said that he does not know if he was really 'in' love with me. This is not the man that I new (we have been together for 7 years) and even his family do not understand what he is doing. I now need to be strong and be the best mum that I can be for my son. Whilst this is not the life I had planned I know I can get through this and will hopefully be stronger for it. I miss the man and fried that I loved for so long but the person he has turned into these last few weeks I do not even know.

I guess I will remember this Christmas for a long time coming and I will now be reading through the posts in the single parenting forum.

I know this is hard.
I'm sorry your going through this.
Men tend to go through stages where they don't know what they want and treat those they love like crap. He may realise what he has done after the Holiday season when lifes gone back to quiet and he's nothing keeping him company but his inner monologue.
And even if he doesn't come back, i know it's hard now, may be for a long while, but life goes on. DOn't sit wallowing, don't do that for your son.
Someone else will come along up the track and treat you like a princess i bet.
And for single parenting, it's not as bad as it sounds. I was one once. And you know what, secretly somedays i think i preferred it better as that time with my son was just so special. And with one or two children it isn't greatly difficult.
Hope everything turns out in a way to make you and your child happy.

Sorry that this is so hard for you but I'm glad that you are going to be the best mum you can to your son. Good luck for your future and I hope you and your son have a happy life together. Big Hugs xxx

Firstly i just wanted to say GBH!
You can and will get through this! - you are a great mum, and your son is the most important thing.
Sorry about your dp - sounds like he wants to go back and "enjoy" some single time - can i ask how old is he? (not that age should matter)

You will move on and meet some-one else one day who will love and respect more than anything in this world (it can happen smile and i am sure will one day)

Just be prepared for him to be "moving on" with some-one else (it can and may happen before you even realise it) - just seems a bit strange that he wants to be "single" so much around the christmas season (xmas parties, alcohol, "new" friends) - sorry to say - but may be very true

In my experience, i have found that most men, that have left their wives/partners (even those with kids) always have some-one else already "on the side" or some-one they are attracted to/interested in sad

Just be the person that you are - and if he doesn't appreciate this, then some-one else will one day

My Dp left me when our DD was 8 months old - and now i am married to a wonderful man that treats DD as his own! (though yes, i shed many a tear trying to repair the relation with dd's dad - you can't force some-one to be part of a family if they don't want to be (i now look at my DH and think how could ex dp be such an arse! - but men are all different, like women)

Thank you for replying. Ex DF is only 26 we have been in a committed relationship since he was 19. Having a baby was what I thought we both wanted. Our DS us only 9 months old and now he has just changed his mind. Yes i know that realistically there may be someone else on his mind. I have asked him and he said there was not but now I just do not know. He has changed so much in such a short time. I know I deserve better and will hopefully one day find someone who loves me as much as u love them. It is just very hard to here the person you thought you were marrying say that they are not sure they ever loved you. I just don't think that is true as do you really stay forward someone for that long if you did not love them and it was not till this year that we had any major ties re house and baby etc. You would think you would walk away before it got to this point.

Sorry was writing that from my phone and it keeps changing the words.