I would like to know others opinions on this issue I have and it seems to happen all the time. When I am out shopping with my partner and kids we get stopped by store workers or other mums having the casual friendly chat or mention about kids (as we have 3 kids under 3) as you do when your out and about. I have noticed that while in conversation (and its usually with women who are mothers themselves) I seem to be ignored as if I am not there and I will try and join in on the chat but eye contact is always made with my partner and not myself, its as if I am non existent everytime my partner is talking to these mums. He is very friendly and easy going when he chats to random people, but I cannot stand when I am with him and these women never talk directly to me nor look at me. There has even been a couple of times where I have asked for help in a store and the lady has answered to my partner and not myself even though I was the one asking for assistance. Even our neighbour (the wife) will say hello to my partner when he's out the front, she did it to him the other day yelling out to him while we were getting into the car with the kids and saying "Hi we havent even had a beer together yet, cos thats what neighbours do isnt it" im not sure if I am looking into things too much with the neighhbour part but it just seemed odd that only a few days before she yelled out to my partner I saw her walking through our local shopping centre carpark and she didnt even return a smile to me - now I dont know if thats cos she didnt recognise me (as we have never really met face to face.) But as you can see it just seems that my partner gets the attention of the females even though I am standing right next to him and I find it very rude not to acknowledge someone present.

That must feel pretty bad standing there being ignored!! Happens to me too, and my partner will also ignore me when he talks to people he knows in town. I just go off and do my own thing lol. My partner is also extremely friendly. He always flirts too which doesn't help. Maybe go out more without him ae smile Haha.

That must feel pretty bad standing there being ignored!! Happens to me too, and my partner will also ignore me when he talks to people he knows in town. I just go off and do my own thing lol. My partner is also extremely friendly. He always flirts too which doesn't help. Maybe go out more without him ae smile Haha.

Me and my partner always go out together, Im an easy going person but just lately I have been finding it strange that I get ignored - or is that the normal for us women ahhhh thank God my partner doesnt flirt although I would say some of the ladies would think he is lol.

Women can be so nasty to each other sometimes. sad

I know how you feel. I hate it when women in shops talk to my DP and blatently ignore me. Women are so nasty!!!!

Hi,

I get ignored all the time..... but that's my personality wink My observation has been while your pregnant you are the centre of attention, once you have bubba- bubba is the centre of attention and then as the kids grow up- kids and hubby are centre of attention!

I actually left my Mothers Group at the end of the first year. A few reasons- returning to work was a major one but another one was the constant chats about "my baby can roll", "my baby is walking", "my baby started to eat solids and loved it!". It was a lot of chat about my child can do this that and the other. And ofcourse we are all proud of our children's achievements but in the end l found it a battle to stay sane, happy and in the conversation. Mind you- l am now in a new playgroup and the ages range from 3.11 years to 2 week olds and l love it! No chat about my child can do this and that- it's just everyday qualms about being a parent and general chit chat.

Anyway in regards to your hubby- he must be drop dead gorgeous in looks and personality or it's time to shop alone with the kiddies! Stay strong!

Hi,

I get ignored all the time..... but that's my personality wink My observation has been while your pregnant you are the centre of attention, once you have bubba- bubba is the centre of attention and then as the kids grow up- kids and hubby are centre of attention!

I actually left my Mothers Group at the end of the first year. A few reasons- returning to work was a major one but another one was the constant chats about "my baby can roll", "my baby is walking", "my baby started to eat solids and loved it!". It was a lot of chat about my child can do this that and the other. And ofcourse we are all proud of our children's achievements but in the end l found it a battle to stay sane, happy and in the conversation. Mind you- l am now in a new playgroup and the ages range from 3.11 years to 2 week olds and l love it! No chat about my child can do this and that- it's just everyday qualms about being a parent and general chit chat.

Anyway in regards to your hubby- he must be drop dead gorgeous in looks and personality or it's time to shop alone with the kiddies! Stay strong!

Yes I find that women in particualar cannot help themselves when it comes to comparisons with others. Even my own friends compete with me during conversations about our kids and one friend even told me she was pregnant by stating she was in "the same boat as me" as I have 3 kids. I laugh these things off but it is very interesting to know that it is not just me who gets the non existant attitude from friendly women chatting to my partner while I am with him. Haha of course would say he is attractive (but I wont let him know or his head would grow) and it doesnt help when he loves to have a chat to anyone and everyone. But our neighbour...well thats a bit weird for me.

Ah that must be so frustrating!! I don't get that but it's only cos if they spoke to my DH they wouldn't get much in return - he's a man of few words lol

I don't know why women would do that, I always talk to the other women I see out and about - the only reason I chat to their men is to apologise for keeping the wife so long laugh

Yeah it has happened to me ever since my first dd was born almost 8 years ago. At first I thought it was just a coincidence but now it is deliberate. The women talk about their babies, what they are up to and even the trouble they are having breastfeeding. When the women was talking about her bf problems I walked up and said maybe you should discuss things like that with your own hubby and she's like oh he wouldn't understand and then kept on chatting with my dh. I was not happy angry
The thing is I really wanted to chat to other mums about our little ones but they seemed to look away when I'd say anything to them and then they'd make eye contact with my dh and start chatting.
I don't have any advice all I do if I see someone approaching my dh I now get in the way so they have to acknowledge me first before chatting to my dh. And yes don't let your dh now he's too georgeous it will go to his head laugh laugh

Yeah it has happened to me ever since my first dd was born almost 8 years ago. At first I thought it was just a coincidence but now it is deliberate. The women talk about their babies, what they are up to and even the trouble they are having breastfeeding. When the women was talking about her bf problems I walked up and said maybe you should discuss things like that with your own hubby and she's like oh he wouldn't understand and then kept on chatting with my dh. I was not happy angry
The thing is I really wanted to chat to other mums about our little ones but they seemed to look away when I'd say anything to them and then they'd make eye contact with my dh and start chatting.
I don't have any advice all I do if I see someone approaching my dh I now get in the way so they have to acknowledge me first before chatting to my dh. And yes don't let your dh now he's too georgeous it will go to his head laugh laugh

Thanks for sharing your experiences with me, it makes me feel like im not so alien anymore. I just dont understand some peoples manners when it comes to 'group' conversation or acknowledgment of others. Our local Woolies staff are all so friendly and there was one particular lady who always chatted to us when we had the kids....well, it became clear that she only wanted to talk to my partner and would even come up to us while we were waiting at the check out and talk to him and ignor me. I walked away a little angry and told my partner how rude I thought she was and all sorts lol and since that day we have avoided her and she seems to avoid us.

Let's face it ladies...women are bitchy and judgemental. grin In fact, people in general are, and competitive too. And other women know this. Maybe they don't talk directly to you as they fear that you will judge them. Or worse yet, you will start to compare/emphathise with them - which they likely interpret as competing. Half the time, people just want an audience when they talk to you. Maybe your husband is a very good listener (from the sounds of it), so they're happy to talk to him - someone who wont judge or compete with them. These women are probably insecure, and his attention makes them feel better about themselves (giving them undevoted listening attention). I would try not to worry about it. You can let it bother you, or do two things - do your own thing and meet up with hubby later, or force your way into their conversations.

Let's face it ladies...women are bitchy and judgemental. grin In fact, people in general are, and competitive too. And other women know this. Maybe they don't talk directly to you as they fear that you will judge them. Or worse yet, you will start to compare/emphathise with them - which they likely interpret as competing. Half the time, people just want an audience when they talk to you. Maybe your husband is a very good listener (from the sounds of it), so they're happy to talk to him - someone who wont judge or compete with them. These women are probably insecure, and his attention makes them feel better about themselves (giving them undevoted listening attention). I would try not to worry about it. You can let it bother you, or do two things - do your own thing and meet up with hubby later, or force your way into their conversations.

My partner is just the friendly chatty type who never refuses a chat with anyone. It has gotten to me recently when our new neighbour is so friendly with him and never to me which I found unusual, and I was thinking back to all the times of being ignored. It makes me feel a little insecure, is it me...is it the way I look (my nationality)...is it cos I am a young mum...but I definatley dont dwell on it. Hard to come across a non competitive mum these days too. Thanks for you insights, it makes me feel better knowing that alot of us agree on how us females tick.

Hi,

I get the same thing when i am in shopping centres or just in the general public.
I also have three kids under three and ever since having my kids I am rarely talked too or even acknowledged. I am a ghost beside my partner and my kids. I generally just continue whatever we were doing in the first place. Or just go and do something else. and call him later to see where he is once I have finished doing what ever it was that I would be doing. or i politely tell them to go away. My man is somewhat like yours he won't say no to a ladies conversation particularly when it is about his kids. I never went to play groups and stuff simply for the comparison issues. I take them to day care instead.

I understand about your neighbour, my husband already lived in the house when I married him and he use to give roses (he grows himself) to the neighbour across the road, still tried to when I was around needless to say I made it clear they are only for me now. When I moved in she would call out to him to say hello, wave and grin at him, even try to have conversations from across the road with him. All the time my hubby would answer back and not once introduce me, he is also a friendly chatty person. After five years she now will wave to me but only since I started waving to her.
Perhaps next time your neighbour calls out to have a beer have a response ready ie: 'No thanks I dont drink beer' or 'That would be nice, I'll let you know when Im free' (but you never do). Would be interesting to see the look on her face lol.

Women are a funny bunch arent they.

After I had my DS I had a friend come over to visit. My hubby had just come home and was putting stuff under the house, we were above on the verandah. She thought it was a goodd time to state at the top of her voice that she is " tighter than before she had a baby". (5 days after I had popped mine out naturally. I was shocked, seriously, who does that.

Im the opposite to most women, I always talk to the women and shy away from the men. Working in a tavern everyone likes to chat and some DH do get flirty in front of their wives which I just think is direspectful. And you can tell when the women are not happy about it so I put attention on them. I try and engage both people because I just think it is rude otherwise.