Ok here's a curly one my brother walked in on his wife in bed with a 16 yr old just before christmas and as you can imagine is preety emotional about it.We have all delt with the initial shock and outrage.Today is my brothers bday and he is extra emotional, he has 2 little boys one who is 6 and the other 3.They spent the night with him last night and this morning the youngest asked why he didn't have a new mummy to sleep in his bed.Well that got him crying my brother is a mans man so we haven't seen him cry much.The little one seeing dad upset got him upset and wanted his mum as kids do so he took him home.When asked why he brought him he told her he was upset which upset the little man she than proceeded to give him a lecture on how irresponsable he is and how much damage he is doing to the boys by crying in front of them.What I'm getting at is it alright to cry in front of your kids what does everyone think on this subject?

I think yes its ok to cry in front of kids. I would explain in a age appropriate way as to why the crying is happening - either happy or sad. so they don't get distressed by it.
I don't think I would get uncontrollable tears like not being able to breath properly in front of kids because that would be upsetting for them but standard crying is fine. IMO

I think yes its ok to cry in front of kids. I would explain in a age appropriate way as to why the crying is happening - either happy or sad. so they don't get distressed by it.
I don't think I would get uncontrollable tears like not being able to breath properly in front of kids because that would be upsetting for them but standard crying is fine. IMO

I agree with Nadz! I'm not a mum but your children need to learn that it is ok to show your feelings instead of bottling them up. And if you explain to them why you are crying (in an age appropriate way) it will help them with dealing with there emotions as they get older.

I think it would be very healthy for two boys to see their daddy cry. Like nadz27 said, as long as someone explained to them that daddy is sad and sometimes when people are sad they cry.

Gosh, ive cried in front of the girls before and certainly dont feel guilty for it, it was a perfect opportunity to explain ways to deal with sadness and how to feel better.

I think it is fine for him to cry in front of the children, they need to taught it is ok to express what they are feeling....I think she needs the lecture on what sleeping with a 16 y/o can do to your family when you already have a partner!

I think it is wonderful that he can cry infront of his children, my DD has seen both me and DH cry in front of her, and she gives us a cuddle to make us feel better. I have only seen my dad cry a handful of times, but it is a part of the greiving process

Also your poor brother, how awful

i dont have kids that age but my partner to is a real mans man, id love to see an emotional side but only once that happen,
im so sorry to hear that about your brother. i think it was perfectly exceptable their his father not a stranger they should be able to share or even be around moments, and for her to say his irresponsible is just grr made me angry. she the irresponsible one what the hell in bed with a 16 year old :/ nice role model mummy she is. he cant cry in front of his kids but its okay for her to sleep with a 16 year old :|

I can't believe that a mother who has slept with a 16 year old child still has custody of her kids!

Thanks for all your feed back and as for custody it is something my bro is looking into.Must say i get cross to when the mother thinks its ok for her to lecture anyone on responsible behaviour but I do my best to keep my opinions low key because I know they will probably just cause more upset.I think what is even more disturbing is the mother of the 16yr old is one of her besties and she says thats ok for them to date because she is so responsible ha what joke.

Must say i what is even more disturbing is the mother of the 16yr old is one of her besties and she says thats ok for them to date because she is so responsible ha what joke.

omg responsible ha yes a Joke!

sorry if I'm being nosy but how old is this woman that slept with a 16 year old? blink

sorry if I'm being nosy but how old is this woman that slept with a 16 year old? blink

Not nosy at all.She is 30 bot I thinks she is 18.

Wow! Where does this woman live?? I hope it's not SA or TAS where the age of consent is 17 years.........

On the topic of crying in front of kids, I think it is healthy and normal for them to see a parent dealing with emotions. I would think that if it got to the point they were crying in front of them every time they saw them or for long periods that they should seek some help because that would really upset the kiddies.

Wow! Where does this woman live?? I hope it's not SA or TAS where the age of consent is 17 years.........

On the topic of crying in front of kids, I think it is healthy and normal for them to see a parent dealing with emotions. I would think that if it got to the point they were crying in front of them every time they saw them or for long periods that they should seek some help because that would really upset the kiddies.

Unfortunately she lives in WA apparently its exceptable over there.The crying thing I told him the same as long as its not all the time its good for the boys to see that its alright to show there emotions.As far as I know its just on occasion but on a high note she has allowed roll eyes him to have the boys for the weekend so he is happy about that.