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Hi to those who are reading this,
I really don't don't where to start, so I guess the beginig will do.
I've been married for almost three years, I have a beautiful almost 5 year old, she is perfect, except when she doesn't want to do something, anyway she isn't the problem, thing thing is I don't know if I love my husband any more, and it worries me, not for me but for my daughter and my four month old who isn't even here yet, the thing is, I don't even like being in the same room as him, let alone the same bed.
I go to bed and he's there, I wake up and he's there, he then goes to work and then comes home, I love being a stay at home mum, but I just don't wnat to be around my husband.
I know he loves me and would do anything for me, but, mybe it's the hormones, but then I've felt like this before I finally got pregnant again.
Could it be that I have no life outside the home or what I don't know.
Anyway thankyou for reading this, I just needed to get this out.

I've lost count how many times a woman has felt like this towards her partner. And you know what, ALOT of the time, it IS the hormones. I myself have been through this with my first. The father made me sick, the thought of him touching me made me want to slice my wrists. I wanted to vomit just thinking about him. I couldn't get past it that time. But now, with my third baby on the way to my Husband, i often think i no longer love my Husband. I no longer want him touching me. Or getting close to me. When he's not around i like him more than he is around.
The thing is, those hormones can really ruin a life. They are so incredibly fierce and can change a whole relationship. What you got to ask yourself right now, at this point, is do you want to wait around and see if things change after the hormones settle (which doesn't actually happen immediatly after birth FYI can go a bit longer) or do you just want to give up right now?
Personally, i am not giving up. I think of what a lovely man my Husband is. The things he does for me. The life i am living because of him. And as bad as i am feeling right now, i am sure it is going to get much better when the hormones settle again. It's worth waiting for and hopefuly i can bite my tongue for now and not get too mean.
So if your not sure, just give it some time. See what happens. Time tells all tales. You'll know eventually whats going to be right for you, it just might take a year fromnow to realise it.
Don't do anything you will regret, as you can't rewrite time. Once you do somehting, you've done it.


Thankyou for your advise, it has helped me a lot, while I'm writing this, I am crying, because I feel so sad, I never had this with our 1st, so it's hard to deal with, and I'm hating myself for feeling this way, my husband is a good man, he treats me well, and loves our daugher, again thankyou.
I've also been in your boat and Skippy pretty much said it all for me!
thankyou for your imput, it has been a hard day today I must say, I've been duing the jobs that I've asked husband to do, but I know that his excuse is that he forgot, or I didn't know where I wanted things etc, so I figured instead of getting on his case about it I would just do it myself, I've only had 4 hours sleep, between him snoring and us arguing and our daughter having nightmares again it's been a tough day, but I think I've done well, so again thankyou for listening and the advise, I will be talking to him tonight when he gets home.
just to update some of you, I had a talk to husband lastnight and although he doesn't understand how I feel he has accepted it and is going to try to help with me.
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