Sooo stressed!

I'am currently pregnant with my 2nd baby and have become soo stressed these last few days! To begin with we are in the process of finding a new house to rent and my dh and i can't agree on anything! He has been looking at highsets but all i want with having one on the way and a 2 yr old is a low set no stairs to worry about but he can't seem to see my point! He says i need to adjust to make it work! I disagree considering im the one that will be home with the kids! Arghhhhh

Number 2 stress is my DH has been out of work for the last 6 months due to medical reasons and he is working casual atm at my work in the factory but can't understand why i'm pushing him to get a full time job he reckons he is thinking hard about it and gets cranky when i tell him he needs to get a stable job... We are just getting along now paying the bills and rent and i stop work in 3 months for baby and he just can't see the urgency!He will be recieveing a payout from a lawsuit in a few weeks and he keeps telling me we can just use that to support us! But why would you want to waste it on bills when it could go towards our own house and lesuire! It's becoming incredibly frustrating and he can't see my point of view. I keep trying to tell him the next job you go to isnt a forever job it will just be a stable one but noooo! At almost 6 months pregnant this is not what i want to be dealing with! and everything just feels 100 times worse emotionally when your pregnant!

Sorry for the rant but need to vent any advice to get him to see where im coming from??

Its tricky, because you need to be supportive of him as well as try & influence. My hubby has just been made redundant & I finish work on friday. I know with him the more I talk about it & stress myself about it, the more pressure i end up putting on him. I have had to step back & let him do his thing & trust that he will find a job ASAP before we move into our new house (3wks) & before baby arrives (8wks). Maybe try & not say too much about it for a few days & see if he then comes to you with a solution or good news. Best of luck to you guys, I hope it all works out & quickly smile

Yes agreed gets very tricky! I'm thinking of having one final talk with him tonight and just saying i would like to you to have a job by June at the latest and then just leave it at that! He is the kind of person that needs time frames soo im crossing fingers this will be the last converstation about it!I do feel for him though becuase 6 Months is a long time to be out of work and it is hard to get back in the swing of things.

i agree with melmul, hes prolly more stressed then you atm but wont want to show it as youve got enough to think about right now

im sure hes got something up his sleeve, dont worry

things tend to just fall into place

i agree with melmul, hes prolly more stressed then you atm but wont want to show it as youve got enough to think about right now

im sure hes got something up his sleeve, dont worry

things tend to just fall into place

I agree with you about the low set house. It will be hard to carry 2 kids up and down stairs as well as groceries etc. Lots of mums have back pain and injuries and you don't need that to add to it. It's also a safety issue for the kiddies with falls etc and one of my friends lived in a highset house, she hated it because everytime she needed to go downstairs to do washing or whatever she either had to leave the kids unsupervised or take them with her. Perhaps you could point out these issues to your partner.

As for the work thing that's a tough one. I think giving him the deadline is a good idea, my DH works better on deadlines too...

Give your DH a break.

I lived in a two story duplex and had a couple of childproof gates put at the bottom and top of the stairs. The gates are great and you can block off half of the house. For the same price, two story places can also be more spacious and roomy.

Also tell your DH that you are happy he works part time and that you can understand how stressful it would be for him to take on a full time job. Tell him that he probably couldn't cope with a full time job due to his predicament. (Then just wait and see, it probably won't be long before he goes and gets a full time job!!!) Most guys would react to the challenge and to try and prove you wrong.

If this doesn't work, and pushing him hasn't worked in the past then try something else, don't continue to do something that isn't working.