I have a 16 month old and im with a man who came into the picture when my daughter was a month old. He sais he loves my child as his own but if he has biological children it would be different which confuses me. This prompts me to ask the question: can a man REALLY love a child that is not biologically theirs? I would appreciate any opinion on the matter.
my DH came into our lives when my dd1 was 2. she has called him daddy since about 7 mths after we met. we are due to have our 4th next year.
.we have had a bit of a hard time medically with dd1, and hubby has been there every step of the way, he does insulin and tablets, she used to have night seziures and he would always wake up with me even if i beat him up!
i think its very possible for someone to love a child that isnt biologically theirs, although it takes a very strong and loving person.
the only favouritism he ever shows is to the new bubs lol, he gets quite clucky when they are born and protective, but he is the same with all the kids.
i think its also a matter of us not showing special treatment to the child that isnt theirs, i did almost fall into this pattern as i felt she was missing out. it didnt take long to realise he resented me for it , and after a long talk he told me he felt like the kids werent equal in my eyes. in a way he was right as i felt she needed to be reassured more that i still loved her, which she did try to use to her advantage until i clicked onto wat she was doing lol
i had huge worries when we fell pregnant for the first time. i was sure he would love that bub more, but i was shocked when he started spending even more time with dd1 on their own to give me and bub time ( i was very sick for the first couple of weeks after )
my dd's also call my ex's wife mummy katie, she treats all the kids the same as well, so does my ex now, surprisingly ( he wasnt even that good with his biological daughter when she was born lol he had to learn ). it took awhile for that to happen but i was addamant that it was wat was best for all involved, it works well for us.
dont lose heart, there are lots of men and women out there who have huge hearts and lots of love to give smile