A bit of help from some dads.

My ex partner kicked me and my daughter (5)out at the start of January. We had been together just over 18 mths and lived together the whole time. He has a 6 year old boy and 2 year old girl that he sees every weekend.

I have only just had our daughter. He did not want to be involved in the pregnancy even when we were together. Now that our daughter is here he says that he cares for all his kids and loves them, but does not want to see our daughter. I know she is only just born, but I feel like I am making all the effort to give him a relationship with his daughter. I still look after his two kids on the weekends when he works.(I class them as my step kids and also my daughter thinks of them as a brother and sister and him as a step dad.) I have no problem with looking after them on the Friday night and him getting them on Saturday, but I don't see why he can't take all the kids when he picks up his two. My eldest still wants to see him and because she never really liked to listen to him when we were together he doesn't believe that she wants to. I also feel that his two kids have a right to know their little sister and be with her whenever they want when they're with him.
My eldest daughter has nothing to do with her father (his choice not ours) and I don't want my youngest to go through the same thing.
Should I be pushing him into seeing his daughter or just back off and let him decide when he wants her (if he wants to)???

Just a recap to make sure I have this right.

You have a 5yr old DD from another relationship. A DD to him who is a few months old. He has a 5 yr old DS and a 2yr old DD that he get's every weekend. He kicked his entire family out of home (his house?) in January. You now look after his children from the previous relationship on a Friday and he scoops them up ignoring his own other DD and your older DD, on a Saturday morning.

Just a few things that would be good to know. Where do you live now? That makes it so convenient that he is able to use your goodwill to look after his other children. Do you have a good relationship with the mother? You must do for her to happily drop them off. What is her opinion of the situation and of him?

As to the question, this guy seems a bit hard hearted. I'm thinking there is no point in pushing him to spend time with the baby. His thinking will be he will have spend time with you because baby can't be apart from you for more than 5 mins. Which he doesn't want to do seeing as he has "kicked you out".

Not taking your other daughter probably would make great synergy with the his other children if they get on well. But he is probably thinking it's a bigger logistical issue and more chance of problems arising. So he doesn't...

That's my opinion anyways, for what it's worth. Obviously you don't tell the whole story but from what you say it seems quite a bizarre situation! Don't you think?

You are close. He gets his two kids every Friday to Sunday. After he picks them up Friday he drops them at my house. I have them overnight and then he picks them up after he's worked Saturday. (any time from 10 - 2 he finishes)
He kicked me and my daughter out. I live about 20 mins away from him. His work is in between our two houses. I am friends with one of the mothers. She is happy for me to have her son (the older one). The other mother doesn't know that I look after her daughter.
Our daughter is on formula only so he can take her. So he is allowed to come and pick her up. I've told him I'm happy for him to have her whenever he wants.

Anything else you'd like to know to help me out. It is a very confusing situation. Mind you I would never say no to looking after his kids. I class them as my own so would have them whenever they want to come.

Not much to help out here.

The guy has 3 children to 3 different mothers... That pretty much says it all doesn't it?

However, you do have a little power over him. In that you look after his kids for him. Try making one of the conditions on you doing that, that he has to take your DD's with him too.

Yeah. Hopefully it will work. He was meant to take her yesterday, but didn't end up coming over cause he had the other two kids and didn't want to have another one with him.
Hopefully he will just come to his senses at some stage. Thanks Rockies.