OMG SO OVER IT ATM !!! (mainly a vent)

my partner left to go away for work 13 days ago ( he will be gone for around 3 months for the first stint) but since he's been gone mainly this week all 4 kids have been a huge pain ! they start playing up as soon as they walk thru the door from school fighting arguing and just plain annoying ... my step daughter ( his daughter 8) had her first MAJOR tanty in ages last night it lasted nearly 2 hours of screaming/ crying and refusing to do anything (started because she didnt want to cut her own sausage something were getting all the kids to do ) they wont clean up after themselves or listen ... when my partner was home he was mainly just here they still had to listen to me and new they shouldnt fight or carry on like babies ... i know there just trying to push my buttons/ and are missing him 2 and im trying to be firm but omg so close to just breaking ... i know i can get thru this just hard atm plus i'm missing him and i have a house inspection this week but every afternoon i'm just stressing out over kids not doing what there asked so now i have to do it all over then next 2 nights once they go to bed sad plus still get up at 5 am to do lunchs school drop offs and go to work myself **sigh** i dont know just needed to vent smile thanks

p.s i cant talk to my mum cause she's trying to convince me to stay ( were moving to other side of auz in dec) cant talk to my partner cause he's missing us and finding it hard at his new job not knowing anyone in the area cant talk to my friends cause there sick of hearing about everything sad

I feel the same today. Got the pips majorly! My ex husband and I seperated in Jan, and he takes the older two 5 & 3 one day a week, and I have the baby 24/7. We are having a huge fight at the moment, and my kids are being feral! Don't know if it's because of whats happening, or age/stage related... It's hard to keep our chin up eh.... You're not alone. Hugs to you.
Does the move mean that your husband will be around during the evenings?
Can you step daughters mother have a bit more to do with her so you only have the 3?

thanks my mum has offered to take the step children (2 of them) for a night on the weekend as mine go to there dads this weekend ... there mum has nothing to do with them which kinda sux and there nan picks them up from school and drops them off an hour later and see's this as my "break" but really i pick my kids up ( they go to different schools ggrr) go to supermarket if i need to and go home so yeah sad

i've done this whole i want mum / dad so many times already 1st with my niece's who's mum left and they came to live with me then when her dad came back left but soon he couldnt handle it so ran away again so there's 2 lots of it there (youngest was 8 months onwards and other was 2 at the time)
MY NIECES now live with my mum 100 % which makes it hard as well as i know she's got a full on job with them

then 2nd when i left my kids dad they started with the i want my dads (omg that was hard but has gotten easier)

then 3rd when my partner got 100% care of his 2 and we got the i want mummy lasted a while and was a lot of drama that went along with it ( they were 3 & 4 at the time) and NOW with the i want dad again but there older now and we've explained why we are doing it and how its only for a little while

he wont be home every night but will be home every 3 - 4 weeks hopefully

she's not an easy child in every day stuff let alone this but she said she understood and gets to talk to her dad as often as she can but his working nights which kinda makes it hard to find a time between school for kids and our works at the moment but still find the time

thanks everyone 1 wasnt going to send them to my mums for a night this weekend with this attitude problem were having but think i may need to just got to find something to do... always go out with my partner so kinda feel wierd going somewhere without him lol


BUT THANK YOU GUYS i know i can do this its just these first few weeks .... i hope smile

p.s UNIQUE i see ur from wa thats where we will be moving what area are u in and what do you like about it ? thanks

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SLC i promise it does get easier i felt like the biggest bitch for leaving my ex because of my kids but they're over it now still get the odd occasion where they'll get upset when they get home except once we move to wa i have a feeling my son is going to ask to come back and live with his dad in qld

thankyou both for helping i feel better getting it all out smile

thanks thinking secret harbour at this stage smile i've never been to wa so will be interesting lol

unique1 wrote:
I live south of the river and it sucks there is some nice areas but try to avoid gosnells and surrounding areas also try avoiding quinns rock and some surrounding areas like glendalough, clarkson and joondalup as they have high crime rates
good luck with everything smile

Seville grove apparently has the highest rate of break-in's in the area, so would probably avoid that area too. But then again, if you are looking at crime rates there aren't many places south of the river between Perth and Armadale that you would live in wink