My DD1 turned 3 in April and is attending 3 yr old kinder, so is eligible to start school 2012 (will be 4 yrs 10mths). I asked her kinder teacher the other day how she was going and she said really good - wouldn't know she was the youngest in the class; plays by herself but also plays with the other kids. Then last week there was a 'sharing' incident where by DD1 got upset when someone wouldn't give her a toy. She was then upset and very out-of-sorts for the last 1/2 hr of class. The teacher now says maybe she should repeat 3 yr old kinder next year (instead of 4 yr old) because her 'conflict resolution' may not be like that of a 4 yr old.
I think it is a bit early to decide but offers are being organised for next year and I need to seriously think about it. My concerns are that if this is her only social 'issue' would it be necessary to get her to repeat and wouldn't she be better with the older kids to learn how to deal with sharing better - especially with kids who will stand up to her? Is putting her back next year with 3 yr olds going to deal with this? She is very mature for her age; makes conversation very easily with adults and other children - actually is a bit in-your-face and doesn't draw breath!
My other concern is academically. She could count to 20 at 15 mths, knew ABC by 22mths (now can count to 100), has an amazing vocab, always wanting to learn and now is wanting to learn how to read and spell words. I'm worried if she doesn't get to school by 2012 she is not going to get enough stimulation, which was like me when I went to school and the teachers had to give me extra work to keep me occupied.
I know kinder teachers get a good idea of where kids are at, but she also attends mother's group, playgroup, and music; I've seen the way she interacts with people and to me she seems very good, however we do have the 'sharing' problem at home with DDS who is 13 mths younger - snatches things, and wants what he is playing with. It's more than 18 months until she would start school - is this 'sharing' thing / conflict resolution going to sort itself out? Do kids still have problems with it when they go to school? I don't think I have blinkers on and want to be sensible about the whole thing - I'm sure I would be happy to have her repeat if she was quiet, shy, couldn't interact, was just 'average' and happy to plod along.