how do you know if your child is gifted?
DD is definately a bright little girl but i dont know if id say shes 'gifted' but worry that if she IS gifted and i dont take appropriate steps to support her then she wont reach her potential IYKWIM?
she was 3 in november and is able to write her name do basic maths (1+2=3 etc) can understand the days of the week, alphabet, some phonetic alphabet sounds (like 'M' makes a mmmmm sound, and what does mummy begin with? M ) and has an amazing ability to remember songs, rhymes etc after only hearing them once or twice. would you call this gifted (in an academic sense) or just a little girl who finds learning fun?
i find the distiction confusing
I don't think it matters too much about the academics, as long as you support her interests and help her to be happy and secure as a person, then that is reaching her potential.
Most people with gifted kids need to help the kids specifically with behaviour and managing difficult and intense emotions that are way beyond their typical age. The easy part is supporting academically, although this can also be difficult with satisfying their endless curiosity.
It is not necessarily required to know whether your kid is or isn't gifted, as long as you meet their needs.
Knowing about giftedness can help to meet their needs, because you can understand what they need from research and you can connect with other parents who understand and who are not misinformed and competitive, or who refuse to listen or who do not like your child because they feel personally threatened for whatever reason.
Knowing about giftedness has a lot of merits, but if you are not sure but can research what it is, then there is probably no rush. If you have a gifted child then this will be clear with time anyway.
She does sound gifted, but then I do not know her. My kids had a lot of academic things like your daughter, and they also had emotional issues and behavioural issues that were linked to giftedness. They also have Sensory Processing Disorder, as do I, which is theorised to be the same as the overexcitabilities Dabrowski linked to gifted people.