control crying with twins

Hi

Just interested how you all went with control crying with twins sharing a room? Mine are 6 months old now thinking about giving it a go but i dont think I can listen to them cry for to long.....
Thanks

Its easier to have our babies go off to sleep happy and cuddled and rocked rather than have three crying or screaming. Our house is peaceful and we are calm.

How do they go to sleep now? we have 5 month old triplets. We never put them to bed crying. If two go down and one is unsettled we rock and pace him to sleep.

Hi
Sometimes rocked then put to bed asleep or they fall asleep on their bouncers then we transfer them to cot. I want them to go to bed awake then self settle in their cot by themselves.Thinking about trying CC but I do think its terrible to let babies cry them selves to sleep.
How do you manage rocking 3 babies to sleep?

I have twins too and have thought about cc but can never bring myself to do it.

My girls always have a feed before bed and will fall asleep while on the breast then they are put in there cots. Like pp if one of mine is unsettled I will comfort and feed them till they fall asleep then place them in there cot.

Hi,
I have twin boys who are 26mnths old, they were terrible sleepers, didn`t sleep through till 14mnths. It`s a long process but, I set a sleep routine that goes like this, bottle of milk whilst watching relaxing dvd, walk aroung the house holding bub, (hubby holds other)singing twinkle, twinkle little star, walk into bedroom, continue singing, have turn cuddling each bub, lay in cot ( continue singing), walk out of room. Most nights they self settle and go to sleep all night. First couple of nights they will kick up a fuss, I stayed with them, held hands through cot bars and kept on singing, I felt that they were alot calmer with me there, they still cried but were never hysterical, i always picked them up if they cried too much, some nights in got to the stage, that they were asleep, and I couldn`t get twinkle twinkle little star outta my head, don`t think I ever will. I`ll be an old lady rocking myself to twinkle twinkle little star in a padded cell LOL !!. I suppose what I learn`t from this is to be consistant, it`s hard work, but if you do exactley the same things say the same words, sing the same song, they soon get it. Well it worked for me after alot of hard work, I think some nights I cried more than them. I still do all of this and they are over 2yrs old, Hubby thinks I`ll be doing the same sleep routine when they are 21. Too sacred to chang what works, sleep depivation is still a very harsh memory. Hope this makes sense. Best of luck.

Thanks for the info....I will give it a go

Hi
Sometimes rocked then put to bed asleep or they fall asleep on their bouncers then we transfer them to cot. I want them to go to bed awake then self settle in their cot by themselves.Thinking about trying CC but I do think its terrible to let babies cry them selves to sleep.
How do you manage rocking 3 babies to sleep?

I am big and have big muscles...... roll eyes one baby in each arm and my wife has one or we have one in a sling and one in arms and one in my wifes arms.

If my wife is home alone she has one in sling and one in arms and one in front pack. Or one on strapped to her back like a African women. Usually only one is unsettled at a time but they are really good babies. We never let them cry to go to sleep. Never because it makes them stress and us stress.

Or we go out walking at night if they are all playing up and they go to sleep. They are all breast fed. Thinking about solids now.

Keeping yourself calm is the only way to keep babies calm as they feel your stress. The boys all have a cuddly to snuggle as well. We also follow pikler so the boys are settled on the floor to play and all go back to bed for a sleep within an hour and half after waking.

Hi there. My twins are now 14 mths old and i guess we have done CC from quite early on. When they were tiny i used to snuggle with them a bit before bed if they were unsettled but my girls are always put to bed awake and although they may not go straight to sleep they are generally quite happy to just nod off withing about 10 min or so.
Tonight hasn't been as smooth but we have had a few extra snuggles and tomorrow will be another day.
I've never been one for rocking babies to sleep or for having babies sleeping in the bed - just becomes too hard when you have to do it by yourself or when they get bigger. My girls are heavy so coudn't imagine having to walk around the house with them to go to sleep.

If it is something you really want to try i would suggest trying during one of their day sleeps rather than at night. Just do it at your own pace and if you feel overwhelmed just pick them up and have a snuggle. Each time just stretch it out just a little bit longer.
It can be hard if they share a room - our girls do and occasionally their crying will wake the other one but it is usuall a little grunt that they do that wakes the other up. If they are both unsettled when going to bed i would suggest taking a very very deep breath and push through. When they finally go to sleep i recommend a good cry on the couch smile
Remember; for every bad day you have there is another twin mummy out there who is going through the same thing. I promise it gets easier.
Im holding out for the time that my girls sleep though the night!!!!!!
I has happened 3 times this month already to am keeping fingers crossed.
Good luck and am happy to chat if you need support.
Cheers
Claire

Hi
Thanks for that...I do have a 3 year old and we did always rock or hold or pat etc him to sleep spoilt him really and now being 3 years old he still will not lie in his bed awake then fall asleep.Learning from our mistakes I want these kids to learn how to fall asleep and self settle themselves. Wish me luck!

Hi

I found consistency of our routine has been the key to helping twins go to sleep and maintain my sanity. I have 17 month b/g twins and when they were younger part of our cc rountine was letting them cry for 2 mintues initailly, if they didn't settle going in to them, a little pat on bottom/back, then leave the room (no picking up and no longer than 30 seconds), let them cry for 3 mintues, if they don't settle going in to them, a little pat then leave the room (no picking up and no longer than 30 seconds), ... we continued this up until 7 minutes of crying. We didn't let them cry longer than 7 minutes at a time. If this rountine continues for 45 minutes (in 7 minute intervals) we would get them up and start again for their next sleep time. Most of the time this worked well but then their were the occasions when I would try anything to get them to sleep ... sitting next to cots, arm on each baby patthing away. It took some time but was well worth the effort. I would also let them know that I loved them and that I would be back in "x" number of minutes to check on them ... I make sure I do this even if they are asleep within that time frame.

Of most importance for our family was to have the consistency of rountine between my husband and I, as we were doing slightly different things which just confused the bubs as to what the cues for sleep were.

I encourage you to find a rountine/plan that works well for your family as you are the best to understand the needs of your babies.