Help - My boys are 5 and 6 years old. The 5yr old keeps having silly tantrums, dropping his lip, stomping off, over everything and anything. He has only been at school for 8 weeks, and I know he is tired. But this isnt anything new, he has always been stroppy. We try to ignore, but this doesnt help. He is a great kid, who when he's good hes great! But these tantys are getting really tedious! Added to this his elder brother, is incapable of doing anything for himself, he wont play or entertain himself at all. And no we dont step in and play with him all the time, I keep thinking maybe I played with him to much when he was little, but in reality he was 15 months old when his brother was born so I cant of. Its really starting to frustrate me. Im shattered. And at my wits end. We also have a 18month old wee girl, who the boys are fantastic with. But how do we teach a 6 year old to enterain himself? And stop the year old tantrums? I dont get a break and Im ready to snap... help please
5 and 6 year old boys driving me insane! help
- Keriaglassenbury
- NSW, New Zealand
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- Bbizzar
- New Zealand
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Hello
Sounds like your having a tough time alright. My suggestion to get the 6 year old to entertain himself is to sit down an write up a list of activities that he could do ( include him in the list writing) that way when he is bugging you to help entertain him you could tell him to go and have a look at the list and do something of it. Maybe change the list every few weeks so it doesnt get boring for him.
The 5 year old tanturms I also have this with my 5year DD.What we do to combat this is we started to take toys that she enjoys playing with away from her. She knew that when her behaviour improved for a week then she would get it back. We also do a special outing for tea one night a week and this does not happen if the girls have not behaved. We also started to teach the 5yr old on how to do more things for herself and this seemed to have stopped the tanturms a bit. When a tanturm happens we send her to her room for 5 mins ( or timeout when out and about) then we ask her why she behaved like that ( this way getting her feelings) then we ask her how does she think that effected me or her dad etc and talk about how we feel ( this way it gets her to relise her actions effect other people)
sorry for the novel but I hope it may help you a bit. smile
Sounds like your having a tough time alright. My suggestion to get the 6 year old to entertain himself is to sit down an write up a list of activities that he could do ( include him in the list writing) that way when he is bugging you to help entertain him you could tell him to go and have a look at the list and do something of it. Maybe change the list every few weeks so it doesnt get boring for him.
The 5 year old tanturms I also have this with my 5year DD.What we do to combat this is we started to take toys that she enjoys playing with away from her. She knew that when her behaviour improved for a week then she would get it back. We also do a special outing for tea one night a week and this does not happen if the girls have not behaved. We also started to teach the 5yr old on how to do more things for herself and this seemed to have stopped the tanturms a bit. When a tanturm happens we send her to her room for 5 mins ( or timeout when out and about) then we ask her why she behaved like that ( this way getting her feelings) then we ask her how does she think that effected me or her dad etc and talk about how we feel ( this way it gets her to relise her actions effect other people)
sorry for the novel but I hope it may help you a bit. smile