and then sat her on the naughty wall,
i told her 'mummy gave you a smack because you were hitting your brother after i told you not to, and you know hitting is wrong'...
shes 3, and in one breif moment she showed me my ignorance, she gave me this look that summed up the entire 60mins video and the thread from yesterday..i nearly cried..you know those moments where your children say/do something that quite literally puts a little bit of the universe into place? it was one of those moments..it will never be the same in our household again.
after having another good read of all the replys on the thread and watching the whole 60mins footage ( i only lasted the first couple of minutes the first time), DH and I had a talk about the issue and have made the decision to become a 'smack free' household smile
i guess its so easy to do something that was done to you as a child when you become a parent yourself, i guess thats how the cycles of everything from violence to alcoholism and drug abuse start. both our parents smacked us as kids, not like on that video, but smacked none the less.
we discussed the fact that weve been defending our use of a smack as disipline saying that its 'only a little smack' and is 'only for the best outcome for our children'..how is hitting your child the 'best thing'? and how can we tell our babies that hitting is wrong as we ourselves effectively hit them? were undermining our own disipline the second we give it...seems pretty stupid really