I am a mum of 9 children 6 from previous relationship and 3 from current relationship. I also have a darling grandson who is 1 yr old, my eldest daughter's son.
My issue is with my Dp parents they just don't seem to want to be involved with our children, 3 addorable little girls.
Dp parents are divorced and re-married, Dp mum lives 1 1/2 hrs away her and Dh visit about every 2 mths for a hour take some photo's and leave. Dp dad only visits at xmass and easter and will leave birthday presants in Dp vehicle at our business depot. I must add I don't get on with Dp dad as he is very opionionated, and critical of Dp but I have learned to bite my tongue.
Dp and I want to have a night away without the kids in a few weeks and mentioned this to Dp mum and she is not interested because she said the last time the kids stayed (12 mths ago) they cried at bedtime. Dp just wants to force his mum to have them but I am of the opinion stuff them we shouldn't have to force them into spending time with their grandchildren. But it makes me so angry because our children are addorable and quite easy to look after and I think his mum is being silly.
Btw when Dp was little his grandparents on both sides had him all the time because his parents liked their space, he was an only child. I know Dp mum is not very experienced with kids she is a neat freak for a start but I know her new hubby is excellent with them and would really love to have them.
What would you do, can we guilt Dp mum into having them or just give up and addvertise for a part time Nanny??
My issue is with my Dp parents they just don't seem to want to be involved with our children, 3 addorable little girls.
Dp parents are divorced and re-married, Dp mum lives 1 1/2 hrs away her and Dh visit about every 2 mths for a hour take some photo's and leave. Dp dad only visits at xmass and easter and will leave birthday presants in Dp vehicle at our business depot. I must add I don't get on with Dp dad as he is very opionionated, and critical of Dp but I have learned to bite my tongue.
Dp and I want to have a night away without the kids in a few weeks and mentioned this to Dp mum and she is not interested because she said the last time the kids stayed (12 mths ago) they cried at bedtime. Dp just wants to force his mum to have them but I am of the opinion stuff them we shouldn't have to force them into spending time with their grandchildren. But it makes me so angry because our children are addorable and quite easy to look after and I think his mum is being silly.
Btw when Dp was little his grandparents on both sides had him all the time because his parents liked their space, he was an only child. I know Dp mum is not very experienced with kids she is a neat freak for a start but I know her new hubby is excellent with them and would really love to have them.
What would you do, can we guilt Dp mum into having them or just give up and addvertise for a part time Nanny??