I am nearly 25 and I was diagnosed with PCOS (poly-cystic ovarian syndrome) when I was 16. In January of this year of was told that my ovaries were starting to show signs of Premature Ovarian Failure (POF). I also have a family history of uterine cancer.
I was shocked. My specialist told me that if I wanted children to do it soon or have some eggs harvested for the future. He was blunt and unemotional. He finished the session and I walked out of his office. I had been told that my chance of having a baby after the age of 28 was going to be practically impossible. And that even now, my only chance of conceiving would be though IVF.
I sat in a chair trying to absorb all he’d told me. I sat there for nearly 2 hours apparently. I don’t remember anything about the rest of that day. The receptionist called my parents because I couldn’t drive. Dad and mum drove to the specialist’s office. Dad bundled me into his car and mum followed in mine.
It took several hours before I snapped out of it. I have had a serious talk to my parents and a few close friends about my option. And I am not afraid to do this alone.
I am currently unemployed and have been for nearly 18 months. I am so sick of being knocked back again and again after interviews that I am applying for university. I will - hopefully - be studying a degree in business majoring in accounting and human resources. Also I will be renewing my private health insurance and putting money aside for IVF.
So by the time I am 26, I hope to be able to start IVF, by which time I will be half-way through my degree. I have been told it may take me two or three cycles to get pregnant because I have NO cycle whatsoever at the moment. Until then I am going to work at getting my weight down and improving my overall health.
When I was looking into IVF in the first place the costs involved were incredible. But with my family history of uterine cancer and POF, I am not willing to risk not having children at all.
I am not afraid of being a single mum. I have a strong group of friends (some of whom are single mums themselves) and a large family ready and willing to support me through this. Whatever I decide to do. Some of my family members are already sending me their recommendations for names and necessities. I am not afraid of being a single mum, I am not afraid of the comments I will no doubt receive. This child (when he/she is here) will be loved and cherished as the miracle it will be.
My query to you is this: Should I grab this chance with both hands and have a child (or two) on my own while I still can... or should I wait until I finish university and risk cancer? (I will be nearly 29 when I graduate) Please, whatever advice you can give me will be most welcome.