Hi Candice, sorry to hear about your situation.
I'm in a similar prediciment myself although I am choosing to have nothing to do with the father of my unborn child or his family. He is violent, unpredictable and a delinquent and has been oustied (sp?) from our family from about week 12 of my pregnancy. I'm choosing not to have any contact or visitation from him mainly for the safety of my child and to protect myself. I'm not yet sure if I should name him on the birth certificate (still need to find out what rights he has aswell my own) and will be getting some legal advice about full custody. I absolutely loathe the idea of him being allowed to just 'show up' and play Daddy when he needs some gratification and just because the birth certificate has his name on it. Naming him would mean I would also have to get in contact, which I am not prepared to do and secondly, I have no idea where the hell he is.
I have abit of research to do as to what my rights are and what his obligations are regarding child support but I am confident I have the support of the right people around me and everyone will get what they deserve in the end. For me that means a happy, healthy, safe environment for my child and my family. And for him, it's looking like a prison cell the last I heard..........
I think it's good you contacted his parents as they have a right to know they are expecting a grandchild on his behalf. However I don't think you need to be worried about them trying to go for custody or demanding more rights, pretty sure they can't even do that unless something happens to you and means you are unable to look after your child. Do you have any sort of relationship with his parents? Are they on good terms with him? I think alot plays into the grandparents being apart of your childs life and at the end of the day, she is your child and you are doing what's best for her. Go with your gut and stick to your guns, Girl.
I hope something can be resolved for you and your daughter. Gosh, I am truely dreading the day when I have to deal with 'Baby Daddy' again. It really is much easier for me and my daughter to get on with our lives without a delinquent juvenile doing a half-ass job as father. Xxx