So anyway 9Months later he still had not told his family I was expecting and they still do not know till this day. He kept promising to tell them during my pregnancy and being the fool I was I believed him. My daughter is now 4Months old and we have no contact with my ex. He has seen her all of three times within the first week of her being born, and has told me he wants nothing to do with us. So I am at a cross-roads of weather to tell his family or not ? They are very upper-class kind of people and I only met them about 3times during our 2year relationship & I didnt feel very welcome at all. Although I got very close to his kids from previous relationship (daughter 17 & son 13)I would love her to get to them but I do not know how to go about it?
Do I tell my ex what im going to do ? Or do I just go in guns blazing and tell his parents ? At the same time I realise that my baby couldnt be any happier, she is in a very loving and caring enviroment and im wondering if maybe keeping things the same might be better? Also his family are very commited Mormons (bar him obviously) and I dont want them to push their beliefs on to me or my daughter. When he went for custody for his other kids from his previous partner his parents hired the most expensive lawyer they could find and things got really messy.
I hate that he has kept my daughter his dirty little secret but am also aware that it is partly my fault too which makes me feel like a really bad mum =( Im also scared of loosing her if they do find out and force him to be a father to her which I know he does not want. I just want whats best for her but I dont know what that is ?
Any ideas or advice would be greatly appreciated !