Single mums

Never thought I would be posting a topic in this section, but I am really starting to not only question my rship with DF but wonder if he even cares....

I have a 1 y.o DD and am 15wks preg with no 2....definately not an ideal time to leave, but i know i need to do whats best for the kids and at the moment I am doing everything anyways, he just sits around (when not working) like a miserable blob (because he lost his license - BOO lol) and doesnt really do or want to do anything with his family, i am really starting to see his true colours a bit too late now and i know for sure he is NOT the man i want to marry. I am also suspecting cheating...that is something i am working on finding out the truth with....

So just wondering...how do you manage two children, alone? Like those everyday tasks and even being pregnant and having to do all that alone?! I am so scared but i dont want to stick around if things wont change sad

Really dont know what to do.

You get used to it! And cope because you have to. I have been a single mum since before DD was born (except for a brief reconciliation of 3 days which resulted in DS) and it's really not all that hard, you just have to be organised with two kids! And your personal hygiene goes out the window with a newborn. Good luck whatever you decide.

Sounds like you're doing it on your own now love, you will be fine if that is what you chose to do x

I have just recently separated from my husband after having #3 just 4 months ago. As a PP said, I do most of it on my own anyway, he's just like a man- child anyways. I am not looking forward to being without them on his weekend visits, and it is yet to be seen how I manage financially (have budgeted and it looks doable). Good luck with your choice, but maybe you leaving will motivate him. My husband will never change, but he is already appreciating the time he has with the children and doing activities, etc... So if anything I hope it has made him a better parent.

i left my useless moping abusive partner at 8 weeks pregnant with our 2nd child (eldest is now 3yrs) and next one due very soon.

its possible, just make sure you have atleast 1 person you can talk to regularly =) thats how i did it and now im so happy i did do it in the end as im so much happier and so is my daughter!

this is just my opinion btw!

My DF left me 9 weeks ago, so since then I have had to do it alone. I only have one child who is now 10 months old and I have found it very hard. But like they say you cope because you have to for your children. I find being a stay at he mum hard as I have way too much time to think about my relationship. I am struggling emotionally, and it defiantly helps to have a good support network. I also find I now accept the help of others alot more freely. It is important to do what you think is right and I really hope everything works out for the best.

Hey ladies,

Thanks for your replies and a further development, i have found out that DF thinks i dont appreciate all that he does for his family like providing for us etc and apparently i have attitude (oh sorry that i have hormones from you knocking me up!) and that once i get one nice thing i expect it all the time, and we are just happy doing our own things and i am on the computer too much (well sorry i work from home and do an online course..oh and a bit of huggies hehe) i tried to ask him to do something with us today and he said nah id rather sit at home, you go and ill look after DD...i dont know how long i can keep trying to make an effort if he keeps rejecting it sad it breaks my heart a tiny bit each time he shuts me down sad we have a wedding to go to on the weekend....so i hope we can have fun there

Still dont know what to do, if he is so unhappy, why is he here?! Doesnt it make it worse to have your children grow up in a home that is unhappy and fake ?!!!!!!!!

Gahhhh brain going to explode

Hey ladies,

Thanks for your replies and a further development, i have found out that DF thinks i dont appreciate all that he does for his family like providing for us etc and apparently i have attitude (oh sorry that i have hormones from you knocking me up!) and that once i get one nice thing i expect it all the time, and we are just happy doing our own things and i am on the computer too much (well sorry i work from home and do an online course..oh and a bit of huggies hehe) i tried to ask him to do something with us today and he said nah id rather sit at home, you go and ill look after DD...i dont know how long i can keep trying to make an effort if he keeps rejecting it sad it breaks my heart a tiny bit each time he shuts me down sad we have a wedding to go to on the weekend....so i hope we can have fun there

Still dont know what to do, if he is so unhappy, why is he here?! Doesnt it make it worse to have your children grow up in a home that is unhappy and fake ?!!!!!!!!

Gahhhh brain going to explode

honestly if it was me i would have told him to hit the road by now!!! if he doesnt think you appreciate anything then tell him to go shove it - you would be better off without the stress and worry its putting on you right now. its not good for baby or you!! or your child.