SIngle mother just moved of parents place....

I'm a 29 year old single mother to a 14 month old boy and i have just moved out of my parents house. It has only been a couple of days but i have found the my son isn't adjusting to the big change that well. He has been really clingy and crying a lot. I'm finding it very hard and the words of my parents are playing in me ear "You won't cope on your own". I guess I'm after advice or to hear from other single parents on how they cope and what they experienced when it was just you and bubs!

hey, first of all - good on you for standing on your own two feet. it will be a big change for your little one - they can get thrown a bit by change but give him time. it will take you both time to adjust. the more confident you appear (even if you have to fake it) the more settled he will feel. i have to be honest & say i'm not a single mum so i can't really put myself in your place. i looked after my two children for 11 wks on my own, with family too far away to support me & that was really tough so i know this will be a challenge. i think your success will really depend on making use of the support others can give you. are you in nz or oz? if you are in nz then ring plunket & ask them what services are available to help you. are your parents happy to sometimes have bubs so you can have a wee break? make sure that you are getting some time out for yourself if you can. i really hope that it goes well for you. don't get discouraged. do you go along to any playgroups? try to meet other mums who are doing it solo like you so that you can learn what has worked for them. good luck to you. would love to hear how it goes. : )

hey, first of all - good on you for standing on your own two feet. it will be a big change for your little one - they can get thrown a bit by change but give him time. it will take you both time to adjust. the more confident you appear (even if you have to fake it) the more settled he will feel. i have to be honest & say i'm not a single mum so i can't really put myself in your place. i looked after my two children for 11 wks on my own, with family too far away to support me & that was really tough so i know this will be a challenge. i think your success will really depend on making use of the support others can give you. are you in nz or oz? if you are in nz then ring plunket & ask them what services are available to help you. are your parents happy to sometimes have bubs so you can have a wee break? make sure that you are getting some time out for yourself if you can. i really hope that it goes well for you. don't get discouraged. do you go along to any playgroups? try to meet other mums who are doing it solo like you so that you can learn what has worked for them. good luck to you. would love to hear how it goes. : )

Thank you so much for your advice smile I'm looking into joining a play group in Cranbourne, Melbourne. Your right about making use of the support that is available.

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It's natural for your son to be a bit unsettled. This is a huge change for him. Just try to be calm and confident and he will start to feel secure again.

Trust yourself. Don't listen to your parents' voices inside your head saying that you can't do this - you can. They were most likely speaking out of fear ... that you can do it without them. From their point of view, they feel that they are 'losing' both you and your son.

I am a single parent. Build yourself a support network. Playgroup is a great idea smile Let your son (and yourself) spend time with your parents, the continuity will be good for all of you.

Thankyou to everyone for their kind words and great advice smile I think playgroup is the way.