Explaining to 4yo

hi

sorry if this is a bit long but need some advice

i havnt been with dd;s dad since b4 she was born the first 2 years of her life he was great. the last 2 years have been hell. he has a new gf and ever since they got together its been insane trying to get him to answer the phone or come see her. i have reached the point of wanting to walk away completely. as he makes no effort towards her but plays dad to 3 kids that are not his. walking away is the last thing i want to do but ifeel i have no other option as she is getting more and more upset. how do i explain to her daddy doesnt wanna make the effort without her feeling like its her fault???

thanks in advance

hi, well i was tht child when iwas younger and the thing is is tht kids arent dumb they can feel there parents no matter how good they are at hiding it lol
A way that i beleive would help is not to be obsessive with your daughts dad tell him how its going to be in regards to her talk 2 him by yourself without the partner or ur daughter around because thats hard to handle (beleive me i was the child in the middle of one of those arguments)
come to some sort of compromise because sometimes people dont see what you see and dont find anything wrong in the matter till they are told dont TELL him how he should act just explain that you both need to be a part of her life and obviously hes a good dad so be civil dont run by emotions just talk like normal people discussing a problem and how it should get solved i hope that this helps from a differnt point of view good luck and stay positive because it will all work out if you let it
..... sorry for such story lol smile