inspire me please

My ex is totally unreasonable, she has screwed up ideas about me, will not compromise or negociate, even after Lwayers meetings she will still not negociate. We are is shared care of our 2 young kids. Please tell me it gets better. Its all in the courts hands now. but this will take another 3 months.

Anyone had to deal with crap and now happy with the final arrangement?

I have never been in this situation but my very close cousin has I have watched the highs and lows of her battle for custody against the father his has drug related problems this has been going on for a year they will finally reach a agreement next month I think.
She has gone all out to make sure they understand she is ten times more capable in looking after them then him, I hope things go well for you I know it's not a easy as it's painful watching some one you love so dearly go threw it let alone yourself.
She said it's getting a tad less stressful as it's getting towards the end of it all.
I hope fpr the best for you and your kids and I hope you can reach a agreement that works for the best for your family
Good luck

I havn't personally, but my brothers have. Remember to diary EVERYTHING! Date, time, who, where you are, exactly what was said, tempers, etc. That can pay off in the long run for you.

Also, if your children have passports and your ex may take them out of the country (even the slightest hint), get a stop put on them. I think this can be done even if they don't have passports, as you only need 1 parent for the application for a passport.

And don't put your ex down in front of the kids - they will remember it.

Good luck and I hope it does get better for you!

Good luck. It's horrible when so called "parents" would rather use their children as pawns to hurt someone than do what is best for the kids.

My DP's ex's (theres 2 of them & 3 kids) will barely let him see his kids. There is no courts involved yet and I've hassled DP into starting something but he won't so I've given up. I've decided to stop worrying about it and focus all my time and energy loving my son.

Anyway his first ex (mum of 2 kids) used to let him see them every second weekend. But now since our son was born we are lucky to see them once a month. The other ex has filled the first ones head with thoughts that the kids are not safe with alone with my ex so the kids can't stay at our house over night. Instead if we do get them for more than one day they stay at MILs. And the oldest keeps asking why she can't stay with us and we don't really know what to tell them. Fathers day is coming up and we still don't know if we will be seeing the kids.

Then there's the second ex who has not let us see his daughter since before Christmas 2010.

Again my DP has basically given up with trying because he's heard of so many horrible stories of these things dragging out for years with no results.

I know this doesn't help but I really hope things work out for you and your children. You all deserve to be happy. Stories like this break my heart.

Good luck.

My partner's daughter lives with us and has for years as the courts ruled she lives with her Dad, now her mother is trying to come back after 5 years and wants her to now live with her. Our lawyer has said to keep a daily diary of everything down to if you cut your kids fingernails when they were with you, record text messages - everything.
We have a diary and are just waiting for her to make a move. The courts and lawyers should be able to see if she is unreasonable and that will work better for you and make her look bad.
Good luck I hope it all works out for you and stay positive!!