My DD has just turned 10 and I have been having problems with behaviour and thoughts that are not normal for her.
She was told that she was going to her dads on her birthday night because it was his weekend and then because his plans changed he said that he couldnt pick her up until the next day. Normally it would be fine with her and she would be happy to have a birthday moment with him the next day. This time she got very upset and very angry and said that she wanted to be with her dad for her birthday and wanted to have her birthday with us the day before. She then went on to say that she wished that everyone could do the birthday thing with her together and how it wasnt fair. I felt a little shocked because she has never done this before and ended up arranging it so that she could be with him for the night and I would look after her in the morning so he could go to work.
Today she asked if she would be with us for christmas day or not and told me how she had made a card for my DH with his name on it not dad as she usually puts and went on to tell me that that was because he is not her dad.
She then went on to tell me about a dream she had where I died and she went to her dads, and he looked after her by himself because his wife had died. Then my DH died too so our other kids went to live with him too because there was no-one to look after them.
She goes to her dads every second weekend when he can have her and has a good relationship with her but he isnt trust worthy and he smokes drugs- though he tells me he doesnt anymore- and he has a problem with lying. My DD has always loved her dad but has always been happy with her place in our family and has never hero worshiped her dad.... I dont know if I like this new thing, he isnt really someone I would want my DD to aspire to be like. I am not sure what to do, apart from bury my head in the sand and pretend it isnt happening laugh
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