Before we became a couple he had been in a relationship with a woman whom he had a daughter with.
They split when DD was 5 months old and DH has cared for her ever since.
His ex visited occasionally but never got too involved.
She moved away when DD was around 14 months old.
DH & I have always been close friends and I often helped with caring for DD..
DD was around 20 months old when DH & I moved into together.
When DD was about 7 we explained that I'm not her 'real' mum as bio mum had been sending birthday cards since her 3rd birthday and continues to do so..
I see DD as my own, treat her as my own & refer to her as my own..
I have known her since she was born. I've been there for all her firsts.. First words, first steps, starting school...
She has never asked about her bio mum and we havn't pushed the subject.
Ex saw DD for the first time in 6 years a month ago and mentioned to DH that she want to be the mum that DD deserves..
That as we have 4 other children she wouldn't receive the attention she should/deserves..
Ex lives interstate & if she did gain custody, we would no longer be able to see DD.. sad
I'm wondering if anyone else has dealt with a similar situation?
(Sorry for going on & on.)