Me and my 2 year old son are living with my partner and his parents (he is not the father of my son). My partners father is very unwell and we are staying here to help out. But his recovery rate is set at over 12 months, so my oartner wants us to stay here until he has fully recovered. How ever, we are also having a baby. My partners mother likes to interfere with how i bring up my son and is already trying to interfere with how we bring up our unborn baby. I am stuck for ideas on what to do bcoz i cant really say anything as i have to live with these people. I dont particularly want to live here but my partner wont move until his father is able to go back to work. CANT HANDLE IT ANYMORE!!!! advice please

Is it possible to rent a house close by?

Or if your partner wont do that either maybe you just need to move out but make sure you and your partner still spend plenty of time together to keep your relationship going forward, i am sure he will come around when it gets closer to him meeting his baby.

Not very nice of your partner to put you inthis situation sad

Like pp said could you rent a house close by?
Poor you, having to live with your IL's. I would sit your DP down and tell how you feel. Make it know that your willing to live close by but you need your own space. Trust me you will need it.

Oh i need the space already, I'm trying to take the bottle of my two year old and every one keeps undermining me. Like as far as im concerned he is old enough to go to sleep with out the bottle but as soon as he cries for one some one just shoves it in his mouth. I think my in-laws just think bcoz I'm a young mum i actually dont know what i'm doing. And the comment i keep getting is "he's only a baby" but they dont realise soon there is going to be another baby which is going to cost more money so if i can toilet train and get him off the bottle now then thats going to cost less

my partner doesnt particularly like this situation but its almost like he feels obligated too. But he works 6 days a week and really long hours so I'm the one home with his parents all day every day...

I have been in a situation similiar to yours, not a living situstion but a few times when DF put his parents demands first because they were being precious and DS and I were hugely inconvenienced.
I gave him a bit of a talking to and said...
You have a child now so you have different responsibilities. Your parents can look after themselves, your baby can't.
GL hun smile

You should not have to deal with this! Your partner should!

If he wants to live there, he needs to talk to his family (mainly mum, i'm guessing) and tell them to back off!

DF's mother was the same and still tries every now and then to give her opinion but has eventually learnt that these are my children and I will raise tham how I/we choose to raise them. I did have to eventually firmly but politely tell her, "No! This is how we're doing it!" etc. But she slowly got the message.

Mind you, I had DF and his dad sticking up for me!

Good luck and make your partner say something to them!

Could you approach it from the view that a newborn in the house with a possibly jealous two year old will be stressful and could make your FIL's recovery take longer? You could try saying that you think everyone will be so worried about the baby's needs that they won't pay enough attention to your FIL, then suggest moving out but as close by as possible so you are both nearby if FIL/MIL need you without adding "extra pressure" on them. By playing the good guy card and making it about them instead of you (even if it's not true, lol) you might get further. Good luck hun, I can't imagine living with my MIL - eeek! blink

At first i thought it was amazing bcoz i didnt grow up with a very good family so moving into a family where both parents are still together and every body loves each other blah blah blah blah, but it seems that having some one over my shoulder all the time is just too much pressure like i feel like i have to force my self to live up to her standards (which are extremely high). But now that i'm pregnant and we have been here for just about a year and can expect to be here for another year, i am just slowly going insane