Thanks ladies for your advuce smile I just feel starting medication is a little extreme at this point. DH has always been a stressor & has very little patience which my DS is testing him on at the moment as well as his job. So I just feel that talking to someone & putting some coping strategies in place for those times would be better than starting down the medication route. I just don't know how we go about getting him someone to talk to. Do you need a referral from your dr??
I don't think starting medication is extreme. Many years ago, when I was first battling with anxiety, I really needed meds and I was with someone who convinced me not to have them. In the end I left them as I knew I needed them, and they never supported me, they just assumed I could "talk myself out of it". Sometimes, that just isn't the case. Meds, really saved me. Like I've stated in a previous forum, taking meds didn't make me super woman, or give me self esteem. It just helped me to feel stable, and not so anxious, so I could make everyday decisions without all the panic, anxiety and depression.
Going through a life changing stressful experience can be enough for someone to start experiencing severe anxiety...and having a baby..well, that's a pretty stressful and life changing experience. One thing you should remember is just because your DH feels like this doesn't necessarily mean that he's unhappy with his life or family. Like me, for example. I love my life. My DP and DS are so beautiful...I appreciate them to bits....but I still suffer from terrible anxiety and after having my baby, it's come back and I will be starting meds again soon. Also, it's important to know that some people with terrible anxiety, like myself, are very good at making it not look as bad as it is. Maybe your DH is afraid to share with you how bad it really is for him. I think you should let him take the meds if he wants. They may be a life saver, like they were for me. Also, if the Zoloft doesn't work, there are other choices available. I found Effexor really good for me.
Good luck with it all