I am really just looking for advise on PND or depression in Men once babies arrive. A bit on my background... six weeks ago my DF walked out on me and our now 10 month old son. He says that he has been unhappy in the relationship and does not think he ever loved me, which I no is not true. He also is struggling to see any of the good times we ever had. He has also been different with our son. He tells me that our DS is the most important thing to him but he does not show it.
Prior to this happening I had noticed that DF had not bonded that well with our son. Our son is a mummies boy and he only wants me especially when he gets over tired or sick. My DF struggled with this and I new it got to him. When I was pregnant he was so excited and happy and got involved in everything to do with the impending arrival. Once the baby was here he was also very attentive for the first few weeks but then I noticed that things changed. Our son was not easy, and cried non stop for the first 8 weeks and has still never slept through the night.
We went away a few months ago and I noticed that my DF was getting angry that we could no long do the things we had enjoyed as a couple such as nice meals out etc as we had to take DS with us. At the time I had thought that was odd as DF had never been an angry person and no I wonder if it was a sign that things were getting too much.
DF is currently living with his parents and is seeing our son a few times a week. However when he takes our son around there he pretty much leaves it up to his parents to interact with him.
Before DF deciding to leave we had discussed the possibility of either of us suffering from PND and DF said that he had looked into it but did not think that was the problem. He said that he can deal with his issues himself and does not need to talk to anyone as he does not feel there is anything wrong.
DF is not acting like himself and he no longer appears to have the values that were important to him for so long. Whilst I would love to save my relationship this is not my main concern as I really want our son to have a good relationship with his father. I really feel there is a deeper issue going on in his head and I do not know what I can do to help him.
Could there be a possibility that he is suffering from depression or PND, if so is there anything I can do to help or do I have to just wait around and hope that he will get through this on his own.