I'm not sure whether to post this, but I wanted to share a secret feeling of disappointment I've been carrying for 10+ months to see if anyone else has felt this.
We didn't find out about the sex of our baby until birth, and I was happy for it to be a boy or girl. However, when our baby girl arrived (she is our first and only), I had feelings of disappointment as I had wanted to give my partner a boy. I think these feelings partly arise from the fact that I've never been close to my Dad, and also, I dearly wanted to give my partner a son to do 'boy stuff' with.
I love my daughter and am a very responsive Mum to her, also my partner is a doting Dad. But I can't seem to completely shake my feeling of disappointment, which I haven't felt comfortable sharing with anyone but a counsellor.
Often I am able to forget about my disappointment, as my feelings around wanting a boy are more for other people than myself. But then someone will make an innocent comment and I'll feel disappointed all over again that I have somehow 'failed' to deliver a son.
For example, my Father-in-law has only boys and recently made a comment that "A boy wouldn't do that". I was at the shopping centre recently and the young shop assistant asked me what sex my baby was and when I said girl, she made the comment that this was "good for mum" because "fathers like boys to play with", then hastened to say that "but a girl is still good".
Can anyone identify with these feelings and can you share anything on how you resolved them? I hope you don't think I am ungrateful having a daughter as I do my best to be a great Mum to her and love her.