not the daddy

i found out i was pregnant at 11 weeks
and was no longer with the father of my child

then i met my boy friend who i am with this present day
and we have been together almost 6 months now.

when we met he knew i was pregnant
how do you thhink he is goin to cope with me and the baby
after she is born

he is a very calm and quit person
and we work really well as a team
we dont live together atm but are planing on
getting a house very soon

some one help

wat if we dont get along
wat can i do to resolve it

we have chatted about this subject together
and he reakon nothing will change

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A friend of mine is going through the same thing at the moment .. She's just as worried as you are that things will change when the baby is born.
My only advice would be to wait until after the baby is born to move in together, just to make sure everything is ok with you, him and the baby as a family unit. Some men are just fantastic with kids who aren't biologically theirs whereas some other men don't deal with it as well. But from what you've said above it seems like he's ready to take on the WHOLE package.
My daughter will be 5 this year and my partner is not her biological father, but she's never met her real father and even tho she knows the truth she sees my partner as her father especially now we are having a baby together.
I'm sure everything will work out fine but pregnancy is such a hormonal time and it can do funny things to your mind .. so maybe just wait until after birth when your hormones have settled and see how things go then.

thanx huni this helps so much

Seems like hes ready to take on the baby otherwise he obviously wouldnt be with you, knowing you are pregnant to someone else.

I met my DP when my DD was 2 and I never thought anything would come out of our relationship as it started off really casual and really just a booty call LOL!

But here we are 8 years later and DD loves him to bits. She refers to him as her dad and he tells everyone that shes his DD.

Some men are dogs! But then once in a blue moon you will hit the jackpot and find yourself with the most perfct man wh is willng to raise your child as his own.

thanx aye yer he is geting more interested every day
and is willing to take it on

but i dont no how well he is goin to take it

he is very comited to me and bub
i think he will do well

thanx aye yer he is geting more interested every day
and is willing to take it on

but i dont no how well he is goin to take it

he is very comited to me and bub
i think he will do well

(izack's daddy)
been there and done that
only advice i can give from a males poit of view is,
dont you change and dont worry!!!

i left the lady i was with because she did rush back to the farther of her child and would not let go

this is advice from an easy going bloke but like all blokes we can not handle been compaired to or/and reminded of your ex!!

the child needs to know who his farther is and that is the cycle of life

but talk to your partner about how you feel

if he dose not know what you are feeling or how you are coping he cannot help and he WILL feer the worse!!

also in closing allow him to come to the birth and "bond" with the child since he has been bonding with this baby ever since you 2 got together. (wether he knows this or not will be a different story) and he has been dealing with all the problems with your prg from your moods (you might not see it but us males do) to your worries.

you should not have anything to worry about but be honnest or that could be the last mistake you will ever make in this relashionship

(dont worry izack is mine smile )