You are a very strong brave woman as it is never easy leaving an abusive relationship.
Being a nurse i have seen the full affects of abuse on kids and if its happening to the children its usually happening to the spouse so if it wasn't happening to you somewhere down the line it would of too.
My husband is a police officer of 16 years and i just read this to him. His advise to you is to get lots of support around you wether that be from a womans refuge or friends and family and to have no contact with him whats so ever.
He has seen the affects on children coming from abusive homes and the outcomes are usually not good they end up going on to be abusive themselves not to mention being emotionaly scared for life.
My girlfriend was badly abused by her Dad, and her Mum was never brave enough to leave so she copped the abuse for years and years. She has had a terrible time growing up and especially trusting men, she has lots of nightmares and self confindence issues.
I'm telling you this because i want you to realize just how a right of a decision you are making by leaving him and contacting the police.
Your children will thank you and you will thank yourself.
You are a such brave woman and a wonderful Mum, you really are! I just wish alot more woman would take a leaf out of your book.
I wish you all the best, and make sure you log on if you need a bit of support. Everyone will be here to listen and help you out.
Jess 28yrs, 5yr old daughter, 8 month old son and 20 weeks pregnant.
What you have done and are doing is very right and I hope you find the strength to continue on doing it!!
You have nothing but support here and we are all here to help you through, even if you just need to vent.
I haven't been in your situation although I think you are doing a brilliant job and please if you want to talk, your welcome to message me.
Good Luck!! and big hugs!!
wish you all the best roll eyes
My son was 6 and I was with a guy (Not his fahter) and he was abusing my son.
My son ended up in care and I ended up being pregnant.
I ended up leaving at 3 months pregnant as I was being abused also and feard for my Bubbys life.
When I left I never looked back, ended up getting my son back and had a beautiful little girl who is now almost 11. I am now married to the most amazing man because I made the choice to leave, keep the kids safe and except nothing but the best man for us.
I am so glad that you got out, please don't go back, even if the promises come that he won't do it again because rarely are the promised kept.
Good luck and big hugs
I don't have a child in this world just yet, but huge KUDOS on your courage to take your kids the hell out of that situation. It's unfathomable that a father would do that to his 5 week old, let alone any child, but it's even worse if he's enabled to keep on doing it. By leaving, you're not an enabler and things WILL improve, even if it is a real struggle at the moment. Your efforts will pay off in due course.
I wish you the best possible outcome for you and your children with regards to the legal recourse you have taken.
You are one awesome woman! Don't look back.