Hi everybody!

Have just been wondering lately, when Dad's hold their bub's for the first time, and spend those first special hours with them, how do they think and feel? Do they fall in love just as much as the mother? I'm hoping that will be the case for my husband. I want him to be as bonded as me towards his little girl.

Thanks!

I daresay he will.

My partner did. He stayed by my side the whole labour, and said he loved me more for what I went through to have our baby.
We have nine months to bond with the little one we carry inside us, but it's different for the dads.

"When you sit there and see your girlfriend go through that much pain, you can't help but fall in love with the little miracle that comes out at the end. If you can go through all of that, she must be worth loving!"
(So my DP just said..)

with my DH it was total adoration and i will never forget the look on his face when he held DS1 for the first time. for such a macho guy, he melted and i could tell it was instant love. over the years, it has only gotten stonger, and both boys just adore DH, sometimes i think even more than me!!!

I daresay he will.

My partner did. He stayed by my side the whole labour, and said he loved me more for what I went through to have our baby.
We have nine months to bond with the little one we carry inside us, but it's different for the dads.

"When you sit there and see your girlfriend go through that much pain, you can't help but fall in love with the little miracle that comes out at the end. If you can go through all of that, she must be worth loving!"
(So my DP just said..)

that is so beautiful!! My DF was the same grin

Though he kept walking out through the labour as he couldn't handle seeing me in pain. Plus the people in there had no idea what they were doing so Ithink he was very nearly ready to hit someone blink

He was the first to pretty much bolt to DD when she was born smile

It's the most beautiful moment to watch dp cried holding dd he was there the whole labour the twins I didn't see but he came to me in tears after holding them my cousin watched dp hold them for the first time and she cried watching him cry lol.
He will be in love when he meets your miracle good luck with the birth xxx

My DH was totally smitten as soon as he saw our bub and he had never really shown a great interest in babies before...but as soon as DS was out he was hovering over me asking when was it his turn to hold him and when he got him i didn't get him back for hours!! roll eyes i'm sure your partner will be the same..good luck!!!

My DH was amazing. Durring the pregnancy he was a little bit hohum about the whole baby thing, and during labour (I was induced so we were in the hospital right from the begining) he seemed more interested in all the equipment in the room and finding out how it worked. But when DS was born he had breathing issues and was taken from me pretty much straigh away, DH was with him the whole time the DRs examined him and went with him to NICU when he was taken there. DS spent 3 hours in NICU while I was stuck on a bed with low blood presher, really fast pulse rate and postptam hemorage (you can tell it was a great birth).
DH spent the whole 3 hours running backwards and fowards between me and DS, telling me how he was doing and checking on us both. He took him the BM that was expressed for him and when I was in a ward and DS was dischared from NICU he collected him and brought him up to me. DS had bonded with his Dad before I'd even had a chance to hold him. I was great, while not a nice experince it was wonderful how DH steped up. He loves DS. I didn't even bath him for the first 4 weeks of his life, DH wouldn't give me a chance.
They fall in love.

Hi everybody!

Have just been wondering lately, when Dad's hold their bub's for the first time, and spend those first special hours with them, how do they think and feel? Do they fall in love just as much as the mother? I'm hoping that will be the case for my husband. I want him to be as bonded as me towards his little girl.

Thanks!

Yup my Hubby did! He was so goo-goo over DS and still is smile

My hubby just went absolutely gaga over my little DH

Hi everybody!

Have just been wondering lately, when Dad's hold their bub's for the first time, and spend those first special hours with them, how do they think and feel? Do they fall in love just as much as the mother? I'm hoping that will be the case for my husband. I want him to be as bonded as me towards his little girl.

Thanks!

My oldest son was born at 4.30 in the afternoon. I stayed with my wife all afternoon and it was around midnight I drove home. about half way home, something popped into my head and said 'I am a dad now!!! It was the most surreal and most prominent moment in my life. I will never ever forget it. I would say he will.

I am also a midwife and the thing I say to help with the bonding process in skin to skin for dads. It may sound weird but It is one of the better ways to promote bonding between bub and dad.

Yep smile It's the best feeling in the world watching him watch DD

It makes me so happy when I think of OH and DS together. He had tears in his eyes when he was born and looked so proud. Mind you in labour he was helpful but at times plain annoying! lol I think he hates seeing me in pain and not being able to 'fix it'. But it's worth it in the end. He adores DS so much smile

My Husband is already in love with our little girl and can't wait until she is born. Feeling her movements ans seeing the ultrasound really helps men bond as much as we do with our baby smile

my boss just had her baby and you couldn't keep her hubby away from there new little girl all he wanted was cuddles cuddles and more cuddles, this is number three for them and even still his eyes lit up and he was like a whole other person it was wonderful to see as the whole 8 months (bubs came early) you couldn't tell if he was excited or not.

when my waters brake and i go into labour and have bubs, we wont contact family for atleast 48 hours and if we do we hope they respect our wishs and do not visit for a few days so we can have that bonding and recovery time without a room full all day. I will also be encouraging turns at skin on skin for the first day, and making sure my partner gets as much baby time as me.

My husband fell in love with our little man straight away. He was born via C-Sect and hubby got all teary and loves our little man to bits. He has been fantastic with him ever since.

Well, just to go against the flow here, falling in love with my son (and daughter for that matter, but my son was first) didn't happen with a bang, but with a slow build-up. I wasn't hit with a sudden rush of love, or "fall in love at first sight" or anything like that, I kind of just... well, he kind of grew on me over time smile He's 3 now and I love him to bits, and my daughter too (3 months) but I'm sure she's going to grow on me more and more over time too.

Off topic but how crap is this website?!?! Can't change my profile to show I am male, keeps showing me as not signed in when I am, won't let me add a second child... ugh, terrible.

My hubby had a whole new appreciation after seeing me have our son and all he could do was cry for the first day at how perfect he was.With our second he wasn't there it all happened so quick but when I rang him he broke down he couldn't even talk to me.So I'm sure your man will feel the same and carrying them in baby bourne also helped him bond best of luck xxxxx

The love between my DD and and DH was a gradual thing, as it was between myself and my DD. I didn't fall in love with my DH (or anyone else), at first sight, and it was the same with my DD.

I was disappointed that I didn't immediately fall deeply in love and bond immediately with my DD as I read in all the books that this would happen.

But the reality is that building love and trust takes time for me and for my DH, so we got to know our beautiful daughter over the course of a few weeks and are now completely smitten.

Awesome to see a dad on here! the site should encourage more dads to get on here - dads need support and a place to chat just like mums.