Daddy is a Truck driver

Hey

Just wondering if anyone else has bin in this situation or something very simliar.

My fiance is a truck driver and can be away alot. Its not like rosters on mine sites. Im currently 29wks pregnant. Im just wondering how poeple cope and how to help my fiance (babys daddy) cope with being away. Ive noticed that it hurts him a bit, if he misses out on the things during the pregnancy. Also has anyone had explain this situation to their children, if so how do you explain that daddy will be away but he still loves you and is coming home again. Also how can i still let my fiance feel involed in the pregnancy and babys growth, development and all that.

Hi smile
My Dh is a truckie but he hasn't been on too many trips of late just been doing the district run so no nights away but that may change during the colder months we have three kids and it hasn't affected them as Dh is home at the moment.
My father was a truckie too lol and I can't really remember being faized by it it was just what dad did and we accepted it sort thing we missed him and he missed us but when he was home from trips he made sure he spent all his time with us smile
If bubs grows up with this as i did it just becomes your norm as you don't know any different my dad sold the business when I was ten in the end.
Good luck with your baby on the way I hope you partner will be able to make the birth xx

DH is a truckkie as well. When DD was born he was doing interstate. DD didnt really miss him to start with as she was only a newborn and I fed her etc anyway. I didnt have any family support as my parents are interstate and In-laws were hopeless so really missed having him home when DD was screaming all day and night with undignosed reflux. When I fell pregnant with DS DH decided to come off the road and did shift work. I actually found it harder with him doing this as he was needing to sleep during the day and was hard keeping a newborn and 2yr old quiet.
I think that if the kids grow up with things a certian way then they dont worry about it. I just made sure DH got quality time when he was home without me in the room so they could develop a special bond. He always did the baths and to this day still does the bath/shower with the kids.

If you have any questions feel free to ask smile

Thank you for the advice. Im just not as sure about these things. Im new to the whole truckies lifestyle sorta thing. It great to hear that our baby will probably grow up just seeing it as a normal lifestyle. Hope everything goes well for you guys aswell. Im sure my fiance will be a great dad.
Thanx for the advice about bonding time, ill see what i can do when our baby is born. Its a great idea to give them alone time. I hope that my fiance can have a specail bond with our baby.

Hi- Daddy is a truck driver here too- and it sux! We live in WA and he does the far north and is gone 1-3 weeks at a time. and like you say there is no set roster so hard to plan things etc. I am now 33 weeks and due to to be induced in about 4 weeks but Im stressing now that this little one will come early and he wont be home. Im sure he will but stupid pregnant hormones are making me worry. This is my 5th baby but his first and it is driving him crazy. He doesnt want to go away anymore. wants to be home. not want to miss his little one growing up. So our plan for now is Skype. We got him an iPad so we can see eachother whenever he is in range.
Are you owner drivers? i think lucky for us we are, so if he doesnt want to go away he just says no. And has decided to change jobs when bub is born. think he will only be away couple days and home for a couple. But unfortuneately for owner driver if the wheels arent turning you dont get paid.
So Im hearing your pain and frustration. Its had because i know if he gave it up he would go crazy- he loves the open road. Then i would have grumpy hubby at home all the time....

good luck hunny

I know what your going tho. we are in WA to.. the long trips up north and back again do suck but my bloke is from up north and he moved down for me, but like you never want to ask them to say no to being on the road because its just in thier blood. My fiance just loves the trucks and the open road i recon if he never had it, he would end up really grumpy. The pregnancy hormons sure dont make it easy, i seem to worry about little stuff that i know wouldnt happen anyway. With me and my bloke this is my first baby but not his. so i kinda stress a fair abit because like my due date isnt that far away is only 30th of july but never really know when bub will come so that worries me and what if he is out on a trip or something will he make it back in time. like with the poeple he works for they will fly him home if need be. My fiance dont have his own truck tho so he uses the one the company gives him but no other truckies drive it sorta thing.
That skype thing is a really good idea but is abit hard cause they dont always have range so i guess it depends on how good that the reception is.
Its hard to watch my fiance getting upset tho because he does want to be here for every little thing for the baby. Its sorta a very specail time for the both of us. And after he last swing he was away for about 2 months which sucks heaps but we got tho it slowly. he normaly dont go for that long but stuff came up as it does in this line of work.

Good luck to you to MrsFlash
Im sure your hubby will be there for you during the birth
If you need to talk or anything just give us a shout, its nice to hear from someone who is going tho the simlair sorts of things to do with our partners and this lifestyle.

That's bizarr as I have lived up in Hedland for a long time and moved here recently to be with him etc. Have always lived and worked in the north.
Yes it is definitely in their blood. And I keep trying to tell him this with him wanting to quit and stay home. I know he will end up going crazy and getting grumpy. ESP working around town. But we have a couple things in the pipe line which will hopefully be a little more family friendly. If that is possible in the truckin game.
I have a good friend who has truckin daddy too, with her first he drove out in the morning and she went into labour that day. He got to Karratha and had to fly back and she had baby few hours later. I said to my DP today what do I do if I go into labour while your in kununarra? He said I'll miss the birth- no friggin way! I'll keep my legs crossed!!

I know its in my fiance blood because he whole life has bin up north, working, living and all that. I know hedland is apart of him. So i thought it would be fine for him to go up there to do with work and then come home again. It took a little getting used to but is fine now because at least i know he is happy and still gets to spend time in his home town and around what in his blood. I know alot of poeple say its nothing he will be fine leaving it and not doing that sorta thing but i really think they dont get it, at first i must admit neither did i but now i see its not just a place its way more then that. Anyone would go crazy without it and going to like town work. I recon it would be just more harm then good i know if my fiance did it, our relationship would have more dramas and he wouldnt be happy. Hopefully things get more family friendly for you. I know the company my fiance is with, seems to be pretty family friendly and very nice about everything.

I agree with you i would be crossing my legs too if my fiance cant make it. Well would have bin a short trip for him.Im really hoping my Fiance can make it to the birth but i guess its gonna be a wait and see thing. Hopefully your bub will time it well so the birth happens when your partner is home. I dont blaim you ay im abit worried about doing it alone because this is my first child.